Stress Q&A
Q: Somethings seriously wrong with me!!?
Don’t make fun of me b/c it just makes matters worse.. I’m 20 and ever since I was 15 I’ve been having these weird face tics (like scrunching my nose, blinking my eyes every 2 seconds, moving my mouth wierd and making grunting noises) i hide it from people and it’s really hard. So when I’m alone it goes CRAZY and I can’t stop it.. It bothers be so much and it gets worse when I ret stressed or worried. It can last weeks at a time and It’ll go away for 2 days and come back even worse than before.. Please help! I just started college and it’s the worst yet! Everyone thinks I have the perfect life, but it’s taking OVER my life!! HELP!!! Thank you all.. I havn’t seen a doctor b/c it’s never been this bad… my boyfriend of 3 years is the only one i don’t hide it from.. 
I’m going to a physician on tuesday I’ve heard of Tourette’s, but everyone I’ve ever seen like that can’t control it AT ALL.. but I can for a little while.. so I really didn’t know what it is Thanks again!
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Ok, this works for me. Every time it starts, close your eyes and take slow deep breaths. Start by tightening and scrunching your face muscles and hold it for 10 secs, concentrate on how it feels when you do this. Then relax and continuing with your eyes closed concentrate on how it feels relaxed. Then take 3 deep breaths and move on to your neck and continue to tighten your neck as hard as possible. Remember to concentrate on how it feels, continue to breath very deep as you do all of this. Hold it for 10 secs then relax and concentrate on how that feels and take 3 very deep breaths. From the beginning continue this pattern throughout your face, neck, arms, fists, chest, abs, upper legs, lower legs, and then feet. If you take the 3 minutes to do this it will help tremendously, not to mention the fact that you will feel really good afterward. Be serious about it thought or else it won’t work. Have fun!!!!!!!!!
Q: My wife left me a dear john letter and took all her belongings?
I am still very much in love with her, we had alot of problems. She moved to London, was living in my flat, would not get a job or help with housework. I admit I have not been easy to live with of late, lots of personal/work stress, so I would often take out my frustration on her. I have also been drinking heavily and had a bad temper and could get suicidle, but i never hit her,only cowards do that. My job (I am a Chef) didn’t give a shit when i asked for a little time to get over the pain, so they fired me. But I am seeking another one, life goes on and I’ve had 2 weeks of hell. We had so many plans, refurbished the flat and bought furniture/decor together.am really heartbroken and depressed. I would have done any thing for her. I still have a good relationship with her dad and brother who are very pissed off with her for doing this, but she will not email me or answer the phone. Before she left she said we needed some time apart and she was going to the states anyway later on.
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give her time to sort her head out and try writing to her with all your thoughts if she really loves you she will come back to you. Sometimes its the women who need to leave to make you get your head sorted but good luck whatever happens
Q: Yet another song I wrote tell me if it’s any good I’m trying to get into the business!?
HAVE YOU EVER Chorus: Have you ever had suicidal temptations/ have you ever given mentally ill demonstrations/ have you ever had fucked up conversations/ have you ever heard such a caucasion/ have you ever stuck up a finger as an abbreviation/ have you ever given up manning your station/ have you ever thought about commiting an amputation/ well I have yeah I have// Verse 1: I’ve been so stressed out/ set off when people pout/ or cry I don’t know why/ but it pisses me off when I’m already frusterated/ then I feel like I’ve been demonstrated/ laughed at in public/ physically brought down for the hell of it/ maybe that’s why I lash out at others expense/ I’m sorry for that I know there’s a certain extent/ that you reach before you take out someone with a clip/ given up your gift/ and your right to live/ a prison sentence sentenced til the end/ when you die as you get that lethal injection/ cold glaring eyes and a snow white complection/ as you look straight on and think your last thought/ you were innocent robbed of life/ left you sobbin electric chair’s coughin/ up currents to keep your current expression in place/ blood fills the air and runs down ya face/ eyes water and eventually buldge out/ while the guilty laugh and indulge in drought/ the drought of knowing you did some fucked up shit/ an innocent life taken but at no risk/ to you because you know once he’s dead he’s gone/ even if you ever admit to it someone was wrong// CHORUS Verse 2: Now I know everyone has there own issues/ but these are mine so grab a couple tissues/ grab a drink sit down and think/ follow the lyrics and follow the beat/ stomp your feet keep movin and cheat/ on tests to pass the week and move back on to the streets/ smoke no weed but cigars in hand/ while an alkaline battery charges up ya man/ that adrenaline rush fills his body as he pushes/ himself to do what it takes to get out of bullshit/ he takes a swig of his vodka/ straight up talkin about nothing at all/ or so it seems to those who think like a ball/ round and round the go one thought that never stops/ or can even give a moment to think about something else/ other than themselves sure they’re livin in hell/ but so are others that could use some help/ out of jail for the night forever locked in a cell/ fucked up thoughts left you without bail/ if I’m ever in and you ain’t there when I’m out/ then fuck you hoe this line’s suposed to be stout/ dried out and stuck to the roof of ya mouth/ be prepared to feel all of my heat/ it’ll hit you when you least expect sometime on the thirteenth/ of any month I’ll keep you guessin/ and I’ll laugh cause your fear’s gonna keep you stressin// CHORUS Verse 3: On September seventh/ I was born to help and die one day to live in Heaven/ then in 01 we had the eleventh/ the terrorist fucked with America/ the wrong country to fuck with/ time to fuck up them bitches with weapons and shit/ mass destructions atomic bombs we’ll lift/ drop in the center and blow the place to bits/ pieces and bodies blood drenching the ground/ feeding the earth and leaving an explosive sound/ innocent people will die but guess what/ I don’t give a fuck/ man dey outta luck/ they took away our innocent and paybacks a bitch/ except with America it’s times ten/ a sad way to spend/ ya birthday seeking protection/ from the U.S. you just shoulda guessed/ that we’d give you the worse and nothing less/ go ahead and kill yourselves it won’t matter/ cause you’ll die anyway in this final battle// CHORUS
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i like the lyrics. as i was reading through verse 1 like the ending of the lyrics “a prison sentence sentenced til the end/ when you die as you get that lethal injection/ cold glaring eyes and a snow white complection/ as you look straight on and think your last thought/ you were innocent robbed of life/”
the words you used and how you used them they were just so intensive and descriptive that it painted a portrait of that scene in my head…
this could almost be a really good poem.. are you a poetic guy?
only thing is some of the verses are kinda long maybe you could sum them up or chop out some things… it could kinda be 2 songs instead of one
all in all, i say thumbs up
i commend anyone who writes their own music.. i sit down and play my fender and try and write and its not so easy
Q: How many times……?
did you get stressed out over a relationship before you decided to end it? What was all the stress about?
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It doesn’t really matter how many times you get stressed out.
What matters is if you are happy and comfortable with your mate if not then you need to tell the person and end it.
We all have our good times and bad but when the bad out weighs the good you know it’s time to let go.
Q: Is it possible for your Penis to make sounds?
I’ve got to a change jobs”, the patient said to his psychiatrist. “I’ve worked in a pickled onion factory for ten years, and last week I started to get this uncontrollable urge to put my dic*k in the onion peeler.” The psychiatrist explain about workplace stress and told him he must learn to relax. But a week later, the patient was back. “I don’t think I can control myself much longer”, he said. “The urge is getting greater. I’m going to put my dic*k in the onion peeler any day now.” The psychiatrist prescribed Valium. A month later, the patient was back on the psychiatrist’s couch. “I’ve lost my job”, he said. “I finally stuck my dic*k into onion peeler.” “My God!”, said the psychiatrist. “What heppened then?” “I got fired. And Betty, the onion peeler, got fired too.”
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Still laughing lol Good one… x
Q: Should I let go and move on, or wait until he changes?
I’ve had a confusing relationship with my boyfriend. I cheated on him at the early stages of our relationship with my previous boyfriend of 3 years. I knew it was the worst mistake, I learned from it, and have moved forward. 9 months later, he still can’t get over it. He’s still getting moments where he tells me off and can’t take it. He’s extremely stressed about it some days. He talks about going out separate ways, but doesn’t want to lose contact with me. So, we break up, get back together, break up, get back together… all on the account that he loves me one moment, then is so hurt by me the next. I want him to be happy. But I’m losing sleep over this too. Do I stick around and wait for him, or go and force him to let himself be?
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That is a hard decision to make and sometimes he has to vent. In my personal opinion if after nine months he is still hung up on this then he might not ever be able to get over it. You need to sit down with him and tell him to get whatever it is off his chest and either bury it or let you go for good. You can’t go on like this you made a mistake. We all do it. You can’t have every mistake held over head forever or you can never go on. I wish you the best of luck in this and do what is best for you.
Q: Why does yahoo’s home page suck ?
if it didnt move automatically after a couple seconds of the page being loaded it would not stress me out to the point of saying Yahoo is for Yahoos ! lol
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To answer the question, it sucks because you say so. That is your opinion and you are entitled to it.
Q: Who has a good way to deal with study stress?
I have a huge test comming up I have been studying till my brain feels like much. is there any way to beat the stress I am feeing?
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First, a mini-lesson in how your brain works: whatever you are studying gets sorted and stored in the upper part of the brain (the neocortex). But to access that info, you have to get thru the brain’s chemical gateway in the center of the brain (the limbic system). That’s where all the emotional stuff is controlled by 5 glands. If you are stressed during (or while studying for) a test, you get anxious, worried, fearful, etc - and then that gate to access the stored info will close. It’s called “downshifting.” If you get REALLY terrified (like, if you think your life practically depends on this test), you can downshift even farther, into the base of the brain (”reptilian”) where you will operate in a bare survival mode. And that test? You will not be able to remember anything - until you walk out, and then it might all come back in a chemical “whoosh.” So, the solution: 1) remember that no test is likely to be a matter of life and death - even if it is a critical test, your entire future does not depend on the results. 2) Breathe! The best way to get those chemicals to chill out and let you have access to your higher thinking processes is to give that brain some oxygen, and to relax as much as you can. Deep breaths! 3) find some fun ways to study - if you are into music, set some of the hard stuff to a tune. If you like art, do some symbolic representation of the main ideas. If you like to move, then study while dancing around or shooting baskets. You’ll be more relaxed, have more oxygen going, and will retain more. 4) The night before the test, stop studying and get a good night’s sleep - it’s the best way for your brain to catalog what it has taken in. 5) Remember to eat breakfast. 6) And enjoy the fact that you have a brain, a computer, school, and whatever else - life is good, you are fine, regardless of this or any other test!
Q: Interested in psychology? r u student of psychology? i have question on stress response and the memory ……?
I need to write video summary on DOnt forget (psychology 101) i have some questions can u help me to answer it? Explain one research evidence providing support to the interaction between the stress response system and the consolidation (storage) of memory.
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The type of information that tends to be circled repeatedly through the mind is typically that which has an emotional component to it. Information that does not have significant value to the individual typically requires conscious effort to consolidate. In other words, we have to actively cycle the information through our mind. You may be familiar with this phenomenon, for example, most people find it is relatively easy to remember an emotional event such as a time when they were embarrassed in front of their friends, yet find it difficult to recall a mathematics formula that they have actively tried to store in their memory. This occurs because in circumstances where we are excited or scared, hormones such as cortisol are released within the body as part of the stress response. Cortisol is a neuroactive hormone that acts to fast track the consolidation process by enhancing synaptic changes between neurons.
The bodyтАЩs natural tendency to enhance the storage of emotionally laden memories has important survival value for many animals, including humans. For example, in dangerous circumstances we will typically experience emotions such as fear or anger that help us to respond appropriately to the threat (either fleeing the scene or putting up a fight). These emotions, along with the body’s ’stress response’ which elevates levels of cortisol, help us to remember this important event so that we are better able to respond if faced with a similar situation in the future. Thus, the brainтАЩs tendency to store emotional memories is an adaptive mechanism that enhances our ability to negotiate the environment in which we live. This adaptive process has important consequences for the neuronal processes involved in addiction, which are similar to those involved in the storage of memories.
I think this one go more to the point of what you are looking for.
Emotions and Memory
http://www.abc.net.au/rn/talks/8.30/helthrpt/stories/s11051.htm
http://www.ldc.upenn.edu/myl/llog/Brizendine/Phelps2004.pdf
http://members.aol.com/smartnews/Neurological_Memory.htm
http://www.abc.net.au/rn/talks/8.30/helthrpt/stories/s11051.htm
Q: what is the % of marriages that last in the military?
I’m 21female in the air force. We got married before my basic so he could come with me after. He’s a civilian. He gets stressed with my schedule. Sometimes I work swing shift which is from 3pm- 1am (usually) so I hardly see him sometimes. Do marriages that start before the military usually last? My flisht chiefs (master sgt and above kept telling me not to complain about scheduling when i first got to my base because marriges dont last) I’ve been in for 16 months. I’m going on my first deployment in a few months.
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well lemme say first ive been in the air force about 6 years now so i know where ur comin from. theres a lotta haters. ppl see u happy, and theyre gonna do what they can to bring u down to their level. thats a fact. a lotta couples in the military arent happy. has nuthin to do with u, dont buy into it. i know a lotta ppl in ur situation, either tech school romance or somethin before. the biggest gripe is definitely deployments, time apart, everything ur doin now. whether or not ur marriage last really depends on u and him, how mature you are, if he really knows what ur getting into? the way i feel, if the guy really loves you, hell do whatever he can to be with u, no matter what. you plannin on bein a lifer? if ur thinkin that way but havent talked about it, u should really discuss with ur mate. but as far as them tellin u marriages dont last, their doin u a diservice and ppl like that are just bitter and have no place givin advice to u. i got married after tech school and have deployed with her twice, and also without her so i got some experience, trust me. ive been where u are now, and i know where ur goin. if u wanna hit me up sometime, be glad to give u whatever advice u need.
Q: ladies please help me.. please?
ok.. i was 12 when i first got my period.. it was regular for awhile.. but its not now.. sometimes i go a few months without it.. and when i get it.. it only last for 2 or 3 days.. and sometimes only a day and is spotting.. I feel fine.. and i am kinda fat and am loosing weight.. could that be affecting it??.. also we have had a lot of stress lately.. parents loosing jobs.. changing schools.. my 37 year old aunt had cancer.. and died.. and i lost all of my friends since the move.. and everything is just kinda a mess.. could this be affecting it? I kinda dont wanna tell my mom because of course we already under a lot stress and i dont wanna make her worry more.. because of me.. what should i do?? tell her and go to the doctor… or just kinda go on with my life?? thanks for your answers.
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You are so young, and when you first start your period it always seems to be off track it never really gets normal untill you are older. When I was 13 I got my period and it was way out of wack for a year or so and then it kinda got normal. It went from light to really heavy to almost nothing at all. Stress plays a big factor in getting your period. It will almost make it dissapear. The best thing to do is to try and relax and not think about it. The more you worry, the later it will come. Its funny that way. And dont be afraid to talk to your mom even though she has been through a lot. Just talk to her and tell her whats going on, and let you know you care that she is going through a lot right now but you also need her help and reassurance. Dont worry if you havent been sexually active, which I hope not cause you are too young, it will come and it will level out. Fun being a girl hey?!!
Q: ok is me girl friend pregnant?
ok we weerrre in the movies and i pissed and “precum” came out and it was on my finger i whiped it off and then i went back into the movie and she took my hand and stuck it down her pants and i was fingering her and is she pregnant? please…stressed
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Eww you didn’t wash your hand after the bathroom!! gross! But anyway there wasn’t enought sperm to inpregnant your girlfriend. And yes there is sperm in Pre-cu m
Q: What do you think about this ?
I am letting it out today , I am so fed up. I am a stay at home mom , I have a 7yr old and 5mth old. Being that my daughter is so young I choose to stay home with her. To get income I take care of an elderly women EVERY weekend, doing stuff that I really don’t want too but because I have bills to pay I do it.When I am not taking care of the kids or cleaning up I am online playing games on yahoo or catching up with friends. My man had a problem with it so I slowed it down. He quit his job 2 weeks and since he’s been home I have to ask him to do sh&t around the house. As soon as he wakes up he’s online , during the day ONLINE , and late at night ONLINE. I confronted him about it 2day but of cousre he had an attitude. Should I leave the subject alone ? Stress ?? that isnt the word of how I am feeling right now. Like I said , I have to provide for my kids so I have to do what I have to do . The old lady I take care of is no easy job, I have to walk with her around, I have to wipe her up when she’s in the bathroom and that is gross, I hate the job but it provides money at the end of the day. My children and I have to eat. Government isn’t gonna help me so hey I am stuck until I feel that its okay to leave my baby with a babysitter
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I would figure out which one of you are going to get a job and if it is him, tell him to get his butt out there on the pavement looking for jobs. If he wants to stay home with the kids and clean house, tell him to get his butt off the computer and get busy. If he wants to be the bread winner, he needs to find another job before he quits the one he has. He has two children and a wife now and cannot just quit his job when he feels like it and, then, play on the Internet all day and night. I am sure you are all very stressed right now and I do hope it works out for you. Good luck.
Q: I was told by an MD that my headaches are related to stress. He told me I should meditate 15 minutes a day….
in a quiet room. Is this a normal things for a Doctor to perscribe or is he a quack. He ran several tests and told me they all came back normal. I have had these headaches off and on for a month.
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I would hope this will be a common practice amoung western doctors in the near future, and I don’t think he is a quack. I very highly believe in eastern medicine, Meditating, Chiropractics, Stretching, and taking vitamins and herbs instead of today’s prescribed drugs. They are more relaxing, medicinal, and better for us; at least in my opinion. Meditation is something you might want to try out. In a quiet room, or with soft music such as piano, violin, or even some of the softer classics. I listen to Water music .Another idea is to listen to recordings of the wind, waves on a lake/ocean, night sounds. They are very relaxing also.
Q: Why is my dog limping?
I have pampered pomeranian, and she keeps pulling up one of her back feet and limping around. There doesnt seem to be anything visibly wrong with the foot. And half the time she’s still storming around the house full speed. Before you answer “take her to the vet” let me just say i have four kids i barely afford, lol, and unless pooch is at deaths door i cant justify the expense. She’s not in pain. Could she be doing it for attention? Ok, let me stress before someone else pisses me off. I love my dog to bits, hence the pampered bit. And ordinarily, i could afford to take her to a vet, but at the moment i cant. Obviously, the vet tech who flippantly suggests i should “rehome her with someone who can afford to treat her” hasnt children, or is one of those people who calls his/her pets “babies” One more note to the abusive vet-tech(who im sure earns more than my factory-employed husband to support his three kids) but i only took offense to the way (i beleive i specified)FLIPPANTLY suggested this. As I feel ive asked this question earnestly i see no reason for anyone to come across as a rude-dude know-it-all. BTW: ive looked into what you suggested, and it seems possibly unlikely, as candy is a puppy. She’s an eleven month old puppy, who was not at all expensive, be cause not all people rip the arse out of people who want a particular breed of companion.(thats my next question”how do people justify charging hundreds and even thousands of bucks for pedigree dogs?) As ive stated, i only cant afford the vets at the moment. Am having a crises at the moment, and if i have to, ill flog her wardrobe on ebay to pay for the vets, i am sensible enough to do this, i just thought to ask about on yahoo, being like midnite here and not being able to do much else at the moment. Jeez.
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I know how you feel and if I had the $$$$ I would send it to you for your dog.
The dog could have been injured by one of the kids, i.e. dropped, by accident or something of that nature. It could be arthritis. It could be a hip problem. In other words, a vet really needs to look at the dog.
I know it is expensive and I know what it is like to live pay check to pay check. I am sure you love the dog. Maybe you could sell something for the money to take her to the vet or cut back on an expense for the month.
Pomeranians are so cute, and they are fragile. I wish I could offer you a simple solution here, but without a vet it is difficult to tell whats going on.
Good Luck and Take Care
Q: Tips on writing a personal statement for my ucas application?
I’m applying for social work and I’m completely stressed out about my personal statement. I haven’t really worked cos I had my kids at a young age and stayed home with them until they went to school. Have no experience that I can think of, what the hell do I write? I’m in the middle of a first draft and have tried to use my experiences as a mum….but is it enough? Won’t they see through it and realise that I’ve actually done nothing since leaving school but bring up my 2 kids? My tutor on an access course I’m taking says that it’s enough but I’m not sure.
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Focus on why you want to do social work, and also on why you’re choosing to return to education.
I’d say that choosing to stay at home with your children before continuing on with your education makes you a great candidate for social work - you’ve obviously worked hard to provide a stable environment for your kids without losing sight of your own educational goals. Bravo, I say!
Q: How To Deal?
This month has been one of the longest. Cancer in two members of my family, the death of a very old family pet, and a breakup. The first breakup. We all know what that means: heartache all around. Anyway…at the end of the month, I look back. Especially after I went out with my ex and some other friends last night. I have to accept this - I’m not getting my boyfriend back. He sees me as an extended member of his family now. And I’m the one who has to deal with the loss since he lost the spark in the relationship at some point. Now a part of me is like, “Did every word he say about me being beautiful ever mean anything? Is it even true?” I mean, how do you feel wonderful when someone who called you his dream girl and perfect and beautiful breaks up with you? Secondly, I’m now terrified of losing my other aging pets. How do I find a way to act “normal” so my family and friends don’t think I’m always mad or depressed? (Any stress tips for Junior year in high school are also loved.)
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God has a plan for every body. trust in Him that you and your family will find peace and stength in whatever situation you all are going through…Use this as a way to make your family closer and come together…..I know what it is like to lose a famliy pet, very sad. Time heals everything and being youn like you are you can always grow with another pet. But you will always always remember your family pet when you were young. They are always the best ever in your life. Anyway about the heartbreak……look at it on the brightside…atleast you have experience in relationships and you will be stronger. It happens and never ever push away love because you are scared of heart ache…you will mi8ss out on a lot. I’m positive he meant what he said to you, but being young every day is something new…even when you get older people are going to feel one day one way and the next another……your lucky you are young…get the experience ….you’ll make smarter moves when you get older. Always always rememeber to count your blessings…..do you have a place to live, shower to get clean in, an education, people who love you…….If so, you are living anothers dream life……be thankful, pray and He will heal you and one day you will have an answer as to why yo are going through this.
Q: Do geologists have good jobs as far as pay, stress, discovering new things, and overall satisfaction?
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In general, the following is true:
1) Pay - salaries for geologists working in petroleum, mining and environmental sciences are good to great (starting at 50-80K/yr). You will almost certainly have to have a master’s degree to get one . Academic jobs are scarce and don’t pay shite….
2) Stress - you will have lots of it because of the workload you will be expected to handle.
3) Discovering new things?..Hmmm well in the oil and mining sectors you will always be looking for new ol or gas fields and ore bodies.
4) Overall staisfaction - That depends largely on the individual and how well they like the particular job they do. I make what I consider almost an obscene amount of money, but really am not too satisfied. I would much rather teach, but i am a money whore since I have kids in college and am trying to save for retirement in 5-10 years..
One thing to bear in mind is that jobs in the geological fields are cyclical, - subject to wide fluctuations. Good Luck
Q: Conservatives, can I help you destress?
Just in case you’ve had a rough day, here’s a stress management technique recommended in all the latest psychological texts. The funny thing is that it really works. 1. Picture yourself near a stream. 2. Birds are softly chirping in the cool mountain air. 3. No one but you knows your secret place. 4. You are in total seclusion from the hectic place called “the world”. 5. The soothing sound of a gentle waterfall fills the air with a cascade of serenity. 6. The water is crystal clear. 7. You can easily make out the face of the Democrat you’re holding underwater. 8. See, you’re smiling already. YES - I have posted this before - we just need it every once in a while. ; ) rjf - EXACTLY! Emily - Who are you? You are not even being rational. I do not report AND I do not care if you believe me or not. I will never be able to reason with you so I will not try. This is a… joke…I…would…never…drown…anyone…okay? Ahmed Al Akbarri - wow - that’s the nicest thing you have EVER said to me. I AM okay, and the quick temper thing is correct. I really am a nice person. It just doesn’t come across in my postings I guess… Have a nice night.
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Is the face of a pretty blonde? You are plain mean!
But deep down inside. I don’t think you really hate. You do have a quick temper. I’m starting to think you are ok. But I still don’t like what you did to my girl.
Q: Help!! Lost cat i only got it today where could it be?
Got a cat today it was very nervous hid behind settee. I put it in kitchen no doors or windows open and it has VANISHED im serious, kitchens not that big and ive looked all ove rit.Got it from cats protection league they are coming to check it tmw and its gone? where could it possibly be? God im so stressed 
Thanks for sensible adult answers, to the other few why not get a life instead of posting such crap. Shes been missing 3 hours now, shes 18 months, had kittens which were taken away from her, been speyed last wek and been in 2 foster homes before i bought her 2day. shes so shy and nervous, has been chipped last week. have put food litter tray bed catnip out still nothing and searched everywhere i can think see whay happend sovernight |VERY worried about her shes only young and had awful life so far x
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1stly, yaaay for you adopting a homeless kitty.
2ndly, the poor thing must be completely stressed out. her babies have been taken from her. she’s only 18mths and in unfamiliar territory with an unfamiliar human.
As many others have suggested, leave out some food & water. Litter tray too. Make sure you haven’t locked her in any cupboards or drawers or anything…maybe even leave them all open in case.
Give her time & space. Some peace & quiet won’t hurt either. As long as you’re 100% sure she hasn’t gotten outside, she’ll show herself once she is ready. Cats do things on their own terms. You need to be patient with her & she’ll come around. Don’t force your attention or affection upon her or she’ll forever be avoiding you.
If it gets into a place it cannot get out of, you’ll hear her screaming for help. I wouldn’t worry so much. It’s very common among cats to hide for the 1st couple of days, and as you said - she’s had a terrible start to life so it must be even tougher for her than most to just settle in.
From experience, my cats were never big on tuna. Perhaps some plain chicken breast could be good to lure her out. Just leave it in the bowl & let the smell waft to wherever she may be hiding.
Good luck & I’d love to know how things turn out!
And once you eventually get hold of her, put a collar with a bell on. That way you’ll hear every little move she makes & will be relieved to know where she is…
Q: How can I relieve stress?
I am getting tired of life. I don’t hate life, but the things that exist. I just need to know any good tips on how to relieve stress. I don’t drink or do any kind of substances. I have not done drugs in years, but smoke weed on occasion when I get really stressed. Besides exrecising and listening to music, what are some other good outlets to let off frustration? Oh yeah, and besides sex. Courage: That is my attitude to a “T” and I know murphy’s law. Maybe that is why I get anxiety at times. Just like a buddhist teaching. I desire peace and that is how I exist. And that is where I find my happiness. A noble truth is all of our sufferings stems from our desires. And suffering will cease if desire ceases. But I covet peace and will die for it. Martyre of my own. I guess this is just a good test of will for patience and tolerance. Your answer actually made me feal better. Thanks!
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You should try to develop a different attitude, try to be more laid-back about things that annoy you. Maybe take on a “don’t care” attitude.
Corny and stupid as this may sound, I have always found that watching silly comedy shows relieves stress, they make me laugh and make me stop thinking for a while. A good long walk always helps me too.
For funny reference, read Murphy’s law lol, it will help you.
Q: Frustrated and need opinions as to how to deal with the MIL–wedding next Sunday?
The question: How should I handle my MIL’s request to move the rehearsal up to 11:00? The situation: Back when we were engaged, we were going to be married on a Saturday. We changed the date due to my grams being diagnosed with cancer, and due to the budget it was moved to Sunday. My MIL has know that it was on a Sunday for over a year. We are renting an old theater that also hosts concerts, and Cindi Lauper is playing the day/night before our wedding so having the rehearsal on Saturday is out. Since our wedding is at 3:30 and the place opens for us at 10:00, my fiance and I decided to have our rehearsal at 10:00. At 11:00 the hair and make-up team is coming for the women in the bridal party. It’s set in stone–I can’t move this. It’s BEEN set in stone for 5 months. My MIL keeps complaining about how no one will be able to go to church with our rehearsal at 10:00′ we’re talking major guilt trip. My fiance has explained to her many, many times that if they want to go to… …church, just go at 8:00 or leave early from the 9:00 service. But no–the MIL keeps wanting it changed. She even accused me of wanting it on Sunday to upset her family! We have had one stress-free wedding so far, until you talk to the MIL. We have been laid back and FAR from Bridezilla territory. The ONLY stress is my MIL! My fiance has talked to her, and I’ve talked to her. Should I be stern with her? I just want to remain as cool during this week as possible. There should NOT be a reason to get stressed out about the rehearsal. I forgot to say that on that Sunday, we have pictures starting at 1:00. THAT is even upsetting her because she keeps saying “I thought we’d have lunch together like usual…” Other than this, she keeps comparing us to my Sis-in-law who was married in June (grrr story). Instead of taking all of their pictures before the ceremony, they were at the reception for a total of 5 minutes. My MIL thought that was cute. Changing the rehearsal is not really an option–all of our bridal party are flying in during the afternoon of the Saturday before .
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Mother in laws—aren’t you glad that they don’t come in 2s. I am afraid there is no real way to handle her, but assure her that you are doing absolutely the best you can do, and let it go. Sit her down, and explain everything,(proably tried of doing it) and tell her you appreciate everything she has done for you, and that you really really need her help in making sure everyone is where they are suppose to be. Include her into the picture. The lunch thing is a family tradition, and us old people are set in our ways, so give her a little room and not crowd her.
I hope you can get through to her, you didn’t do this on purpose. It’s just how it end up being, My daughter got married on a Sunday, and I was blessed no one complained about missing Church or Sunday lunch, because it was for a good cause. Besides, God isn’t going to strike the woman down for missing a sermon or the family won’t strave if lunch isn’t on the table. Please be as kind as you can be, but she’s pushing your buttons and she needs to relax and realize this is her son’s wedding too!
God bless us all…..
Q: Pregnant Cat?
Thursday night we persuaded a mom cat and her three month old kitten into our garage. We built a suitable cage for them to live in. Mama has been around us since the middle of June, and across the street she had three kittens. Two of them dissappeared after a few weeks of feeding them. Shadow is Mama’s only kitten left with her. BAD NEWS- She’s about to have more kittens in our garage VERY SOON. We don’t know when though. Shadow is way past her weaning stage, but since Mama’s been pregnant she’s been nursing. I was wondering how long before a cat gives birth does she produece milk? WE CANNOT KEEP ANY OF THE CATS, AND WE’RE GOING TO GIVE THEM ALL TO THE LOCAL ANIMAL SHELTER. Mama’s has had her kittens in the wild, so do you think it’ll stress her out if we are in the garage helping her? Please help me if you have any information about what she needs for birth and things like that. WE ARE KEEPING MAMA AND SHADOW UNTIL SHE GIVES BIRTH.
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63 days is the term of a cats pregnancy… if she is ok with you petting her now… she should be ok with you being there during the birth… cats are usually calm during birth… I’ve even heard them purr while giving birth… Good Luck!!!
Q: Maison de stress? It seems that the minute I start to relax a little, my husband wants to find more -?
more for me to do - more arguments. Sometimes I just feel constantly exhausted mentally and even physically.
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I strongly believe that mental abuse is sometimes worse than physical. People can visually see the outcome of the physical side but it’s not that easy to see the mental pain…Only you can stop it…Do whatever it takes to be happy…
Q: its been 2 months havent got my menses….can you sugest any medcines doc said its stress?
am 20 ,and i have taken some weight do you think it might be the cause
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For those who are unaware of the the nomenclature: menses is common usage referring to menstruation and menses as a period.
You should refer back to your doctor for medication relating to relieving symptoms of stress. You mentioned you’ve gained weight, however, you didn’t mention you were trying to loose the extra pounds… if you are dieting to reduce the weight gain, (like skipping meals, not eating), that will stop your periods also.
Q: Agitated, Frustrated, full of rage….what can I do to get this under control?
I have a common problem; I get extremely annoyed with my father, and my father only. I can’t tell whether it’s meaningless or I have some deep issues with him, but whatever the case I try to convince him it’s nothing and that he shouldn’t worry about it. I have trouble hiding the fact that I want to kick his face in or scream whenever he’s around. So, he (rightfully) gets the impression that I’m agitated or annoyed any given time he tries to talk to me. How do I deal with this rage? I really don’t see the two of us resolving whatever makes me ‘hate’ him so much, but I do care about him and wish I could be a bit more personable. I need a way to either calm down, or be a really good actress…because I can’t continue getting so pissed and there’s no way I’m discussing with him why I get so annoyed and frustrated. Any suggestions, other than telling him how I feel? Trust me, I’ve tried before. It doesn’t work. I would have said exactly what made me angry if I knew. He does have a few psychiatric problems. Post-Traumatic Stress from the Vietnam War, he’s had some serious anger problems. He’s never hit me or anything but I see his rages. We were never really close (even living together) until after my mother died, and I think I’ve always felt this way about him. He’s also an alcoholic in denial…I think I’m probably in denial about despising him for it. We talk about everything but the fact that I can’t stand the sight of him sometimes. That, we simply can’t discuss.
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There are so many vietnam vets who is just like your father…they cannot talk about their experiences over there…it was terrible…Have you read any books on the vietnam war? A lot of vets become alcoholics as well because of what they experienced in that terrible war. I think I can understand exactly why you are angry, frustrated and everything you are talking about. Your father lost himself in the vietnam war…he is not the man he was before that war. I dont know if there is any help for him because I have met many vietnam vets who are near vegetative states. I have read books about the vietnam war, but I have never spoken to a soldier who was over there…no-one talk about their experiences. I think I would hate to be a family member of a vietnam vet because their whole reality…their whole life was changed. The Government at the time forced people to go to Vietnam to fight. Youngs guys who didnt want to go were made to go. You know when they came back from the war, they were spat upon, they were considered not human. Unlike WWI and WWII veterans who walked down the street proudly when they came back from the war…the vietnam vets were hated. I think this has everything to do with why your father is the way he is. I dont know if there are any answers for him…he needs professional help to get over whatever it was he experienced.
I think the only thing you can do is read up everything you can about the vietnam war and try to see things from his perspective. Or maybe you will just have to leave for your own sanity’s sake. Living with an alcoholic at the best of times is near impossible…living with a vietnam vet who is an alcoholic is even harder. Dont be too hard on yourself….I certainly can understand why you would feel everything you are feeling.
Q: okay…how do i start talking to this guy i really like…?
ok, so i am not going to go up to hin and start talking to him, what im thinking of doing is bringing my psp and he looks like he likes video games so once he sees it what should i do like show it off or talk to his friend so tat he can see and he starts talking to me or waht? plz i really want him! hes so sweet and freakin hott! and nice and has the cutest hotest sexiest voice in the fuckin world and im stressing out!!!!!!!!!!!!!? he sat infront of me today in class cause he went w/his friend so yah omg i almost pissed my pants im serious! plzzzzz!!!ppl????help!!!!!!!!! hes sweet cause like no other guys are like this: ok so like on the 2nd day of skool his friend was in my way [like the way tat i was trying to get trough] and then hes like dude move get out of her way and then they let me trough!!!! oh and im in high skool ..f.y.i!
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I think you should bring your psp and if he like video games y’all engage in a conversation on video games and eventually you’ll engage into a different conversation about something else you’ll find you have somethings in common.
Q: my boyfriend and i seem like we are going seprate ways i am not sure what to do.?
he dosent come home to see me if i wanna see him i have to come to him and he dosent tell me what is going on i have to call him i really do love him but i am getting stressed so i dont know what to do
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sounds like he is trying to slowly pull out of the relationship. Two cases happened to two acquintances of mine. The one who wants to end a relationship would tend to have that kind of a plan. So that it won’t hurt too much, or, they find it hard to voice out those painful words. So… you can say that they are selfish bec they try their best to turn or create a situation wherein the other party would by force, have to voice out the problem and perhaps create an argument and they will use the chance to break it off.
My advice to you is to observe very carefully and think carefully about the changes the occurs recently.
You are the one who has the first hand experience with him and should know the answers/reasons better than anyone else.
Q: How to reveal to your mom that you had them “done”?
So, I got some new boobs this summer and haven’t told my parents yet. My mom did notice a change, but I told her that I was wearing padded clothing and she bought it. So, I know I eventually have to tell her b/c I’m getting married and when I put on the dress she’ll be there. My fiance thinks I should try to make a joke of it and tell her first that the reason they’re bigger is b/c I’m pregnant and then tell her I’m kidding, I just got them done. Somehow I’m thinking that’s not going to work either. Any suggestions? And what makes them nasty? My fiance likes them and so do I, so that’s all that should matter. People who judge other just b/c of something like a boob job need to get off their high horses. Has NOTHING to do w/it being wrong or right. She has this belief that it will be harder to breast feed if I get them done BEFORE having a kid. If I had them done after I had a kid then I wouldn’t have a problem telling her. I got them done because I wanted to and I’m glad I did it. That should be a good enough answer. Yeah, I’ll eventually tell her. Guess I’m just not ready to deal with the stress of her getting on my case about doing it before having a kid.
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You are absolutely right. Your the one that has to be happy with your decision…and no one else. Even if you tell your mom…sure she might be a little upset at first but I certainly don’t think that she’s going to love you any less for having done it.
Q: Should I be nervous about a custody battle?
On Thursday, my husband and I are going to be fighting for custody of his daughter from a previous marriage. Her mother is a serious drug addict among other things. She has been picked up numerous times for possesion, theft, I.R.S. fraud and identity theft. My husband and I have no run-ins with the law and we just bought a 4 bedroom house today. Why am I so scared that we won’t get custody? And if we don’t, should I or my husband feel like failures? I’m also nervous that the stress of the custody battle will affect me and my unborn little girl. I’m six months pregnant and yes we have documented everything with the ex-wife
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You’re scared because it’s been implanted into our brains that most courts side with the mother on issues like this. Honey, it’s time to leave that train of thought at the station. That’s no longer the way it works. If what you say is true, you have no reason to fear losing on this case. This mother has some serious issues and I can’t see a court in their right mind leaving the child with her mother. If the child is under the age of 12, the child doesn’t have a say either way, so that shouldn’t frighten you. The court will hear her opinions through the report of a guardian adlitem and social worker, but the it’s ultimately their decision and it’s made on who can meet the best interests of the child better.
And if for some God forsaken reason, you do lose, don’t consider yourselves failures. Consider the court system that for failing that little girl. If they deny it, don’t stop pursuing it. In situations like this, I know it’s hard, but it’s worth it for the sake of his daughter. She didn’t ask for a mother like this and she probably doesn’t want her parents fighting over her. What she probably wants to do is just lie her head down on a soft pillow in a safe place and have it all go away. I wish you the best of luck honey!
Q: Ladies (or men) give me some advice on hubby?
I am so upset with my husband. We are suppose to be getting our house ready to sell. We are currently in the process of building the new house. My husband is not working on the house itself, but constantly wanting to spend free time doing stuff to the land. The land is not in need of anything specific, he is just wasting time on it. No he is not off doing other things. He goes there with his dad. I have been stuck with the kids and trying to keep our house clean to sell. He has been getting mad at me because I am getting mad at him for not helping out here. It is a revolving circle of just complaining. I feel like I am just constantly nagging, but all I want is help around here. (He does typically help clean and pick up.) There are just things our house needs done to sell it. Help me. I feel like just walking out. (I wouldn’t really do that.) That is just what I feel like. We both have so much pressure and stress, that it is wearing thin. Give me suggestions. Well he is going with his dad tomorrow and plans on being there all day. His dad is even sleeping over to go with him. I want to yell, but can’t with his dad here. We are having an open house on sunday and have so much to do. We have a builder that is building the house, not my husband.
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Stop the insanity honey! If someone else is building the house and being paid to do it, then why does your husband have to help? It makes sense that if someone was working on the house, he could at least work on the yard. Who wants to move in to a beautiful new house with a crappy yard. He’s a man, and it’s how he feels he’s contributing.
However, I don’t really think this is the reason you are so angry. I think it has more to do with the frustration level of everything around you. And I’m not chastising you. You have alot going on, you have the right to be frazzled. What you don’t have the right to do is place blame on the hubby. If you want him to stay home and help you instead of work on the new yard…then you are going to have to say so. If you want him to fix up something on the old house so it will sell faster, then you are going to have to make that clear. If not, all this nagging and complaining is being done for nothing honey. The problem isn’t going to go away…it’s going to get bigger. This is the time where the two of you need to have a meeting of the minds. Admit your faults, ask each other for some help and develop some tolerance. Let go of the little things and start reminding yourself of the better qualities you like in each other. Then focus on them, compliment each other and after awhile, those characteristics you first fell in love with will start to resurface.
It’s not a cure-all, especially for stressful situations, but I look at it this way…..For everything bad that happens, it could always be ten times worse. And if I look for the negative, I’m sure to find them; but if I look for the postitive, I’ll find those as well. What I’m trying to say is that we each have a choice honey. Everyday is a new beginning. Now you can wake up tomorrow and do exactly as you did yesterday, knowing the outcome. Or you can say to yourself “Today, I’m going to try something different…today I’m making the choice to accept the things I cannot change, change the things I can, and look for the silver lining”.
Q: my last peiod was aug 20 it is sept 29 i took 3 preg test they came out negative could i still be preg?
i usually always have normal periods and there alwayus on time i have not not been stressing but have been tired could that be strees related?
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There is a chance that you are pregnant and that you have been receiving false negatives from the tests. But there is a higher chance that you have a hormone imbalance. Get yourself to a doctor, you need to have a blood test done. You may have PolyCystic Ovary Syndrome. It happens when our bodies aren’t producing enough estrogen to mature and release an egg, so the eggs that are meant to be released, stay in the ovary and form a cyst. This is treat able by medication, but you need to have a blood test to check your hormone levels. Absolutely worst case scenario, it can also be ovarian cancer. But that’s the absolute worst case scenario, if you get to a doctor now, and it ends up being that, it should be towards the beginning and you will be able to get the most help with it if that’s what it is, but you need to find out now.
Q: when should i change my rotors?
I have a 99 Chevy S10 and i have little stress fracture cracks in the rotors…when should i change them or is it ok to drive with these on there…?
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If they have cracks in them, they should be replaced now!!
It should not be that expensive to replace them, it will cost a lot more if a rotor fails.
As to the person who said it would cost over $2000, please let my shop do your next $2000 brake/ rotor replacement. We need a bonus!!!
Q: Has this happened to anyone else?
Okay I had a 3.8 gpa during highschool and a 4.0 during Junior College, where I got my associates degree. Then I went on to a four year college and everything was good for the first semester, A’s and B’s. But then we had 6 deaths in my family with in a 3 month period of time and I became extremely depressed and developed a health problem(due to stress) I stopped going to my classes and for one year I failed ALL but two of my classes. Since then I decided that I was wasting my money and I needed to take some time off from college. So I am currently taking a year off…. but I want to apply soon to a school closer to home and I am afraid they will not except me because my gpa is now 2.5. Has this happened to any of you….or anyone you know? Were you/they able to get back into college? And do you think I should write some sort of letter with my admissions applications explaining to them my situation? Or will they just think I am making excuses for myself? Please Help Me. Thankyou
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you have two options: The best would be to work with your admissions counsellor, who will probably advise a letter of explanation.
You can also apply to this new school, but never let on that you attended your previous transfer. The bad side there is that you lose the credit for your good semester, plus if you’re getting any governmental aide, the new school’s financial aide office will likely find out - after you’re admitted. I’ve never heard of repercussions for thie route, but it’s possbile, I dsuppose.
I’d recommend going the first route; you work through it up-front, get your good tranfer credit, and it’s behind you.
Q: today is my birthday, and my boyfriend…..?
ok heres the situation, my boyfriend is older and may be stressed a bit, he never will out and out say he loves me, but has texted it. We are together about 4 out of 7 days, for the past year. he is not emotional, but in the past tried to make an effort once and brought a flower to my work, now if i complain he brings up that one instance. am i being a baby? i mean its my birthday and he gets me a gift card to get my nails done and didnt even come see me today, he gave me that yesterday. my manager even came and gave me a card that had some meaning to it. why would he just get me something soo impersonal? i mean a few words would mean more than my nails! i do talk to him about this all the time he just brigns up one effort he made in the past, we were arguing earlier over this.
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Men can be insensitive sometimes and they don’t even notice. He may have thought he gave you the best gift ever. He also may feel that since he gave you your gift early that he does not have to come see you today. Guys just don’t get it sometimes. The best thing to do is to flat out tell him you feel so that next time he has no excuse for being a jerk. Be sure to let him know that you appreciate when he does try though. Have a great birthday… I hope things work out for you!
Q: Self-harming relapse?
I’m 17 and in college. When I was in high school, I had a moderate problem with self-harm but never received any professional help for it. I once tried to talk to my mum about it, but she said I was just attention-seeking and to solve my own problems. It culminated about a year ago with me slashing myself across the face with a needle, leaving a still-visible scar on my cheek. I told my parents IтАЩd fallen on a pair of scissors, and while they must have both doubted it, neither of them said anything. I got with a guy 6 months ago, and we went out until yesterday, when we broke up once and for all. A few weeks back I scrammed him on the arm because he did something I really wasn’t okay with (no explanation needed) and he told me he’d spent hours picking at the wound to make it bleed so he could remember me. It just brought back all my own memories, and about a week ago I found myself harming myself minorly on the forearm, again with a needle. Now I think about it all time and since we broke up, I just keep thinking I could really go off on one and it wouldnтАЩt matter because there would be no-one to hide the scars from. Even when IтАЩm not stressed I think of doing it. In fact, right now IтАЩm having a really good day and IтАЩve had an amazing evening, watched a movie with a friend, did some shopping, had a great day in college etc and yet IтАЩm still dying to do it. WhatтАЩs wrong with me? I really thought IтАЩd managed to fix this problem, how can I prevent a serious relapse?
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First, stay away from this guy because you don’t need that kind of influence in your life. There will be so many great guys at college and beyond, so let this one go.
Obviously you have a lot of pain inside, the cause of which only you can know or discover. I think the first thing you might want to focus on is allowing yourself to feel that pain and not try and replace it with physical pain. Also know that you are allowed to feel pain and just because there aren’t scars doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt you. You don’t need to make scars to prove to the world that you are hurting. And your mother was wrong, you aren’t just trying to get attention.
You have a lot of emotional energy that you could use for constructive purposes, rather than destructive purposes. Try something creative and new - try a bunch of things and see what fits you. Right now, the reaction to the pain you are feeling is only hurting yourself more (I know you know that), and basically you are cutting off your nose to spite your face.
I’m not sure if this would help, but while you are finding other ways to cope, perhaps you could try drawing on yourself with a red pen. It sounds stupid, but I actually know that for some people that helps. It’s worth a shot, at least.
If you really are having a hard time, talk to your school counselor. That’s what they are there for, and you can get a great deal because you are a student. The stresses of adapting to a new life and schedule can bring out negative coping tactics, and they can, at the very least, help you talk out what is going on in your mind and help you realize exactly what it is that is hurting you.
Q: Ever get to that point in a relationship where you just start bickering all the time?
I so don’t know what to do! My boyfriend and I have both been under a lot of stress lately and because of that bickering/fighting constantly. We have been together for a year and things have been pretty good but right now I am miserable. Don’t know how to handle this, any thoughts?
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if its about stupid things, you guys need to mature and get over it, especially this far into the relationship, but if you guys are fighting about important things that would affect your relationship (drug use, money problems, cheating, etc.) you may want to take it as a sign that you’re not going to be happy and you’re NOT going to change theprson TRUST ME, so wake up and ask yourself if this is going to bother you forever and if so you’re going to want out. otherwise don’t fight about it.
Q: Help! I hate my mom dad and brother?
Oh my god I swear i hate my mom dad and my brother I mean they really just not right in the head my boyfriend is the only one I can relate to Im 15 I can’t move out until im 18 or can i move out earlier I need some words of encouragment cuz i swear they stress me out i don’t think i can wait 3 years i be ready to run away,
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you have no choice, make the best out of a bad situation. if you were smart you’d be using this time to get ready for your 18th b-day. enroll in college, get a job, save you $ and move. thats what worked for me anyway. good luck
Q: My Boyfirend and I Just Broke Up. About an hour ago…What Do I Do Now?
I have been dating this guy 7 weeks now which might not sound long but is the longest relationship i have ever “offically” had. We started dating the first day of college for 2 weeks I though it was dumb and too soon but he proved to me it wasn’t and in the last few weeks before today I was so happy. He ignored me for like 3 days and I went to his room to talk to him a half an hour ago and basically said He eather had to tell me whats up or it wasn’t going to work because of all the stress he was putting on me. He said it was getting to him how fast everything was going and how extreamly serious it was becoming. We agreed to end it. I am sitting in my room and just crying cause i realize how much he meant to me. I miss him so much right now. When I was sad he was the person to come and hold me and make me feel better. What do i do now? I don’t know what 2 do with myself anymore… : ( My friends say I should get drunk with them and go out and party… Part of me wants 2 But the other side of me just wants to lay on my floor and cry all night. this is hitting me like a brick
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don’t make yourself suffer for someone. if he ignored you-then he doesn’t want you. it was actually too soon to get into a relationship. don’t be bummed out-you’re in college. live it up or else you’re gonna regret it when you’re older. make new friends; keep yourself occupied. go out with your girlz.
*BIG DON’T: don’t sit in your room listening to heartbreaking songs*
*DO: learn from this experience (like how not to get into a relationship too soon & how not to take everything fast & extremely serious too soon)*
also don’t go back and forth to him-that’ll just create illusions for you & break your heart even more
**Don’t depend on a relationship to make you happy.**
Q: please help me to solve my MENTAL PUZZLE BLACKHOLE????????????
I AM senior person without following common rules of society. i fight for silly things try to win those things . but during the process i face lot mental torture of stress not ot to show anger fear to others. then i loose my social logic of simple relationship fall into mental loophole of how to get out of mental emotion instead of the logical solution. now it is confusion for me what to do here/ problem logic wise i should win. but due to emotional lock up i just feel pressure fall under influence of others . main equation lying in taking my emotions very deeply hardly . . if other person suggest me about my problem i feel like he does nt know about my issue. i used to be funloving enjoying type of person before my career started. now this confusion is not going out of my mind. eventhough i look simple to others! i seemyself as difficult person to face life everybody. is anybody can feel what i had written about. any tip would lift my spirit to comeback into positive life.
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Hey….thts i think is normal….ur attitude most of d ppl have…thrs no need to worry dear!
But i must request u to plz stop thinking tht its ur mental problem……plz this can make u go in depressions…..n all thinkings…..all time u’ll b thinking abt this….so frend,its gud tht u r feeling bad for urself but no need to get worry so easily..just take it lightly….most of d ppl have d same kindaa prob…..So Stop Thinking More!!!.
Q: My Boyfirend and I Just Broke Up. About 30 minutes ago…What Do I Do Now?
I have been dating this guy 7 weeks now which might not sound long but is the longest relationship i have ever “offically” had. We started dating the first day of college for 2 weeks I though it was dumb and too soon but he proved to me it wasn’t and in the last few weeks before today I was so happy. He ignored me for like 3 days and I went to his room to talk to him a half an hour ago and basically said He eather had to tell me whats up or it wasn’t going to work because of all the stress he was putting on me. He said it was getting to him how fast everything was going and how extreamly serious it was becoming. We agreed to end it. I am sitting in my room and just crying cause i realize how much he meant to me. I miss him so much right now. When I was sad he was the person to come and hold me and make me feel better. What do i do now? I don’t know what 2 do with myself anymore… : ( My firneds say i should get drunk with them and go out and party… Part of me wants 2 But the other side of me just wants to lay on my floor and cry all night.
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you cant solve a problem by crying, get your lazy bum up take a shower call some of your best friends and have a party,hey thats what relationship is all about,trial and error,you have to learn from it but dont dwell on it,life must go on.all you need right now is your best friend and the best pal of all an ice cold mr budlight.drain your sorrows with mr bud he is a good counsellor you just need a couple of him.and good luck move-on.
Q: personal experiences or read about implantation bleeding & testing question?
Ok so here’s the deal I have a 30 day cycle, always on time except if I’m stressed I’ll only be about a day or so late (hardly ever) I had my period Aug. 3 (no schedule) then I had strange spotting brown then light pink starting Aug. 19, I didn’t think anything off it at the time, just thought my period was early (which it never is) so as of now I could be very late or just about 10 days late…. then yesterday afternoon I starting spotting again only brownish very light, no cramps… and it stopped a little while ago. I am not under any stress just a little confused I was planning to go get a blood test monday but because of this new spotting I’m wondering if it’s worth it yet…. so my question is do you have any idea of what is going on and how soon after implantation can you test? so is there any one who still had some spotting even after they were pregnant?
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I had heavy spotting that I thought was my period (it wasn’t too far off my cycle time), but it was actually implantation. You can continue to have some light bleeding or spotting when you are pregnant..so dint rule it out.
I would take a home test this weekend if I were you…..they are usually pretty accurate if you are even a few days late for your period (which it looks like you are saying that you are now for sure). Then, depending on the results, I would follow up with a blood test. If you are pregnant, you are going to want to keep an eye on the spotting and see your doctor early to ensure a healthy pregnancy. Good luck!
Q: Whst is the best foundation for sweaty skin?
I need a really good foundation that stays on for long. I get stressed, im busy in work it causes my foundation to just disapear !! I cant afford to keep re-applying it … help me pls xx
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I assume by sweaty you mean oily. Here are some ideas:
- mineral makeup like loose powder foundation and setting powder - Bare Minerals and Physicians Formula are two good brands
- if you must wear a liquid foundation, look for one that is oil free and for oily, acne prone skin. These formulas usually dry into your skin and don’t sit on top where the oil is. (Try Neutrogena)
- Also, anytime you use a liquid foundation, you will need to set it with a layer of pressed powder and then a layer of loose powder (both made for oily, acne prone skin)
- Buy some blotting papers, which can be found at Wal-greens. These are small pieces of tissue like paper which you sweep across your skin to absorb the oil. Hopefully most of your makeup stays intact when you do this.
- Before you put on any makeup, spread a layer of clear acne medication on your skin (even if you don’t have an acne problem). Clearasil is a good cheap one but there are plenty of different ones. This will dry your skin and act as a primer for your makeup (by slowing the oil process and smoothing out your skin).
- Try hard not to touch your face with your hands throughout the day. Your hands have lots of oil on them that will only make your natural face oil worse.
- Lastly, even though it’s a pain, you probably will have to reapply at least your powder. It sucks but it’s a part of having oily skin.
Q: any other single moms out there? how do you handle your stress?
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Look for the best job you can possibly get, one with a boss or company standard that understands the modern family and allows the leeway you need. — Join a Mom’s Group, local or online, so you have other adults to talk to and lean on. There should also be a single parents assoc in your area, for like $50/year they arrange activities for all the single parents to get together at least once per month. — These groups can also lead to a mom’s circle, or do one with your existing friends, where you trade off taking the other’s kids for outings or sleepovers while the other mom gets some time off. One group I know uses poker chips, the person getting a night off writes the amount of time on the chip and gives it to the other person who can then trade that chip back when they want some time. — PLAN the time with your children and make sure they are on a schedule as much as possible. The more consistency, the less stress you will have. Plan activities you can all enjoy together, including quiet time like reading. If they are old enough, Chuck E Cheese & McD’s and similar are a great escape. The kids will spend the whole time meeting other kids and running around playing while you can relax and breath. Some grocery stores now have play centers inside as well that keep your kids ages 2-8 for up to 2-hours while you shop (or eat at the deli..LOL) so look around. — Remember that some day they will be grown and you will be asking how to handle the stress without them
Q: Is there a chance I could still be pregnant?
home test and blood test came up negitive I do have some of the sypmtoms and I am like clockwork date of LMP was aug 26 with my youngest a blood test did not pick up that pregancy until 2 weeks after my period was due could my hormones be that low. this would be my 4th actually i’m not under any stress.
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Best idea is to repeat tests in two weeks if you still don’t get your period.
Q: What can we do to help kids who are being bullied online and offline to help better cope with their situation?
Bullying, is a horrible thing, it lowers our kid’s self-asteem, it gets them stressed and depressed, they can accually get sick because of it, and their modivation just seems to disapear. What can we do to help these poor children, and help stop bullying?
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start afterschool program about bullying in school and report it to the school and buy a book on the subject!
Q: Push-ups together or apart?
Whenever i get think about it during the day i will stop what I am doing and do 25-30 push-ups, just to relieve stress, get my blood pumping, and build up my upper body when i can’t be at the gym. I do this at least a dozen times a day, usually more. Is this beneficial, or should I try doing them closer together?
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You should first determine whether you want to build muscle mass in your chest, or just be fit and trim.
If you want to have a lean, flat chest, then your current routine is good - and commendable.
If, however, you want to develop the pectoral muscle mass, you would benefit from doing sets closer together (60 second in between, ideally). The important point is to rest at least a day or two in between. It may not feel right, at first, but your pectorals will need time to rebuild and refuel with glycogen (starch) for that swollen look.
Think about the rest of the cells in your body. They don’t just divide and divide and divide. They divide once, rest and store nutrients, then divide again when conditions are right. The same goes for your muscles.
Q: CHRISTIANS - Do you have on your whole “Armor” today?
Ep. 6:13 Wherefore take unto you the whole armor of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. And these are evil days indeed…….. Peace man And thank you for encouraging ME. Eph. 6:12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. Peace Brother Drakonis Sure thing, and pray for me, and the world as well. In this battle, we are not fighting against what we can see, but what we cannot see; the foul and evil spirits that abound in this world that come against us. We are fighting against rulers that are of the darkness of this world we live in. What an amazing thing to realize you are in a battle that no earthly soul has called you up for; no president, king, nor any great religious leader, but God Himself has called you. Peace Brother Thank you Encourage for God And people like you “encourage me”. My wife and I try aur best to keep our “armor” on. I thank God for a faithful wife! Didn’t brother Paul have it right when he said: Eph. 6:14-17 “Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness; and your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace; above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked. And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God:..? Peace Sister Brigid 01 Thank YOU for responding to ME. God know those that are his. And HIS know each other. Peace Sister NewChatholic You “cut it” right at the head! I know you are willing to stay on the battlefield! I’m with you Brother! Char I Love you Sister. You have got it. Take the Devil and his agents head on! I’VE GOT YOUR BACK!! Peace Thank YOU Andi B!!! We NEED each other!! We are not against each other. We ought to be striving to be one. Our armor is spiritual since the battle we are in is spiritual. There are six items in this armor; helmet, breastplate, shield, loincloth, sword, and shoes. In order from head to toe; salvation, righteousness, faith, truth, the word of God, and peace. These are all you need in this battle. In the beginning, you received salvation. Then Jesus became your righteousness, because you have none of your own. But, through HIM, “we can do ALL things” Peace Brother Nel With all do respect…I’m speaking of the battle that Paul is speaking of. NOTHING MORE, NOTHING LESS. HE IS NOT TALKING ABOUT A PHYSICAL WARFARE. And he spoke by the authority of Christ. Please pray about it. Pray for me sister heresyhunter It happen at times to ALL of us. But we have each other to encourage. To get it all on. You’ve got to recognize that you are without. He is blessing you RIGHT NOW! You’ve got a battle to fight. GO GIRL!!! I Tim. 6:12 Fight the good fight of faith, lay hold on eternal life, whereunto thou art also called, and hast professed a good profession before many witnesses. Love you Sister Commander It’s BETTER than American Express, isn’t it? And look at the Reward - Jesus said; Rev 2:10 Fear none of those things which thou shalt suffer: behold, the devil shall cast [some] of you into prison, that ye may be tried; and ye shall have tribulation ten days: be thou faithful unto death, and I will give thee a crown of life. Peace Brother I…want….u….2….BE OF GOOD CHEER! Pick it back up, girl! Before it is time and everlasting to late! YOU HAVE A CALLING FROM THE GOD OF THE UNIVERSE!!! Be more concerned with your spiritual life than your physical life; it is more important since it will be for eternity! Endure hardness; keep on keeping on, don’t give up, hang in there, fight a good fight of faith. I Peter 5:8 (again) Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour. Peace Mother Goose, And I know you’re a wonderful mother for it! Raise those young girls…IN THE LORD! We, God’s children, are kept by the faith He has given us all the way to the end of the road of salvation. If we drop that shield of faith, and receive the enemies power on us, we are indeed in great trouble! You must keep the faith all the way unto the end! I try to stress the fact of keeping the faith all your days upon this earth. You can see that you must, I repeat, must keep your faith unto the end of your days or the Lord’s return (whichever comes first!). The end of your faith is the salvation of your soul; that’s when you can stand on the other side of this life and shout “I’m saved!” Peace sister
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Thanks for the reminder…Actually I was running around like most of us do with nothing more than the Helmet of salvation, which means I was a Christian streaker….Had my salvation, but was naked from the neck down!! And running around trying to deflect the flaming arrows of the wicked one without my shield of faith, and no sword….*sigh*
I’m going to get dressed…THANKS!!
Q: Men and stress?
I have been married for four years we have a two year old, My husband works a full time job and I work a part time job. I care for my son all day and then work at night. My husband complains that he doesn’t get to relax after work because he has to care for our son while I am working. He always complains about being stressed. I work,Take care of our child,clean, cook ,run errands etc and he is stressed. Now am I being unreasonable to chastise him? Is there women in the same situation who feel they don’t get the respect they deserve.
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don’t you feel stressed?? if not kudos to you…if so just be glad he’s talking about it to you instead of somebody else…instead of chastising him tell him you feel stressed too and maybe you can comfort each other instead of fight…or figure out a way that both of you can get little breaks…will give you more self respect for trying instead of getting upset and hopefully he will understand and then the both of you will feel better…Good Luck
Q: I am a 30 YO Female,and noticed my hair thinning?
What causes this? I color my hair,and I blow dry/process it alot,but just recently this started..and I have done this stuff for years! Hair just falls out,and alot! I am under alot of stress,Hubby is in Iraq,and I am not eating that healthy I have to admit. I just don’t understand why it just started to do this? What can I do to stop it,or make it thicker again? I have long hair,and I want it to stay long. Any tips?
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Stress and poor diet can certainly cause hair to thin, read this link:
http://www.webmd.com/content/article/78/95829.htm
try taking Biotin, also called “Vitamin H”, it is used for hair loss in patients with thinning or balding conditions, make sure you take at least 2500 micrograms or 2.5 milligrams [same thing] daily.
There are also specific hair vitamins you can take,
GNC has a supplement called “Ultra Nourishair” that makes the hair grow faster, you can read what’s in it by googling it. Be warned these pills are HUGE and you have to take 2 a day.
Also ProCaps labs sells a “hair skin and nails” formula that does the same thing, supports hair growth and health, and is smaller and easier to swallow.
If you take only Biotin [sometimes known as “vitamin H” ] alone, make sure you take at least 2.5 milligrams or 2500 micrograms [the same thing] a day because thats’ a good amount to take. I use the Nourishair supplement from GNC now and my hair is growing faster than it did, but it took about 6 to 8 weeks of daily use to see results