Q: can someone help me?
here is the problem. a couple months ago i started to feel severe dizziness. my ears started popping and fluttering, i have went to the ER alot and they said it was vertigo. then they said it was BPPV, then they said it was meniers desiese. i was sent to a ENT he said he cant find anything wrong. now my left arm and left leg keep tingling, my heart races, i have massive pressure in my head, i cant think or even get out of bed most of the time. its bringing on severe stress and depression. if anyone has any answers please help me im scared
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It seems like you are having the symptoms BECAUSE of stress and depression. All your symptoms can definitely be stress and emotional related. Talk to your primary physician (not the ER doc, because they don’t really know you) about your symptoms and discuss the possibility of an antidepressant.
Q: HELP … mmmk?
I know alot of people use this but this is true ‘a friend of mine’ seriously, suffers depression and anxiety what can me/him do to help him?
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Hi! If you do have a friend that is suffering from depression, then firs of all, talk to them about it. Only you know the right way to approach them but one thing, don’t come on to strong and make them feel like they have to have an explanation for why they are feeling this way. Just let them know that you’ve noticed something was different or that you’ve noticed some signs and you were just wondering if there is anything you can do. Ask them, do they want to seek professional help? or do they just need to talk and get something out into the open? But let them know that it is ok to feel depressed no matter if you understand the situation or not. We all don’t view things the same way and what might be just an everyday bump in the road to you may not be the same for your friend. Also, if you offer your support, then follow through with it. If you don’t that can send them into and even deeper depression. If they need to talk, then be prepared to JUST listen. Don’t feel like you always have to have an answer for them or that they expect you to solve anything for them. Sometimes, all a person needs is a sounding board. Then once they can voice their problem, then it may be just a little more listening and support may be all they need. It is so amazing what a person can sort out after hearing their thoughts in actual words instead of just in thoughts in their head. Sometimes as you verbalize the problem, it all seems to unfold and you can start to see a little glimmer of light instead of a big dark cloud. However, don’t forget to tell yourself that it’s ok if you don’t have the answers and you cannot be the one to help them. Because then, you might be joining them in the depression area within no time. If the support and listening ears from his/her friends/family aren’t enough, then with much compassion, urge them to get professional help. Please remember to make sure they know that it is more than ok to feel the way they do. None of us are made of an indestructable material. Even giants fall to their knees now and then.
Q: Whats the difference?
Hey, I was just wondering what the difference is between Anxiety and Depression, i hear people talking about these things but i dont know what the difference is. THANKS.
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Depression is feeling sad and down. Anxiety is feeling nervous and stressed to the extreme.
Q: How do you know?
I was wondering when you know you suffer depression, bcause people tell me I do but im not sure is there any specific signs? Im 15 and male.
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WARNING: this is realllllly long. Be prepared.
Frequent sadness, tearfulness, crying
Teens may show their pervasive sadness by wearing black clothes, writing poetry with morbid themes, or having a preoccupation with music that has nihilistic themes. They may cry for no apparent reason.
Hopelessness
Teens may feel that life is not worth living or worth the effort to even maintain their appearance or hygiene. They may believe that a negative situation will never change and be pessimistic about their future.
Decreased interest in activities; or inability to enjoy previously favorite activities
Teens may become apathetic and drop out of clubs, sports, and other activities they once enjoyed. Not much seems fun anymore to the depressed teen.
Persistent boredom; low energy
Lack of motivation and lowered energy level is reflected by missed classes or not going to school. A drop in grade averages can be equated with loss of concentration and slowed thinking.
Social isolation, poor communication
There is a lack of connection with friends and family. Teens may avoid family gatherings and events. Teens who used to spend a lot of time with friends may now spend most of their time alone and without interests. Teens may not share their feelings with others, believing that they are alone in the world and no one is listening to them or even cares about them.
Low self esteem and guilt
Teens may assume blame for negative events or circumstances. They may feel like a failure and have negative views about their competence and self-worth. They feel as if they are not “good enough.”
Extreme sensitivity to rejection or failure
Believing that they are unworthy, depressed teens become even more depressed with every supposed rejection or perceived lack of success.
Increased irritability, anger, or hostility
Depressed teens are often irritable, taking out most of their anger on their family. They may attack others by being critical, sarcastic, or abusive. They may feel they must reject their family before their family rejects them.
Difficulty with relationships
Teens may suddenly have no interest in maintaining friendships. They’ll stop calling and visiting their friends.
Frequent complaints of physical illnesses, such as headaches and stomachaches
Teens may complain about lightheadedness or dizziness, being nauseated, and back pain. Other common complaints include headaches, stomachaches, vomiting, and menstrual problems.
Frequent absences from school or poor performance in school
Children and teens who cause trouble at home or at school may actually be depressed but not know it. Because the child may not always seem sad, parents and teachers may not realize that the behavior problem is a sign of depression.
Poor concentration
Teens may have trouble concentrating on schoolwork, following a conversation, or even watching television.
A major change in eating and/or sleeping patterns
Sleep disturbance may show up as all-night television watching, difficulty in getting up for school, or sleeping during the day. Loss of appetite may become anorexia or bulimia. Eating too much may result in weight gain and obesity.
Talk of or efforts to run away from home
Running away is usually a cry for help. This may be the first time the parents realize that their child has a problem and needs help.
Thoughts or expressions of suicide or self-destructive behavior
Teens who are depressed may say they want to be dead or may talk about suicide. Depressed children and teens are at increased risk for committing suicide. If a child or teen says, “I want to kill myself,” or “I’m going to commit suicide,” always take the statement seriously and seek evaluation from a child and adolescent psychiatrist or other mental health professional. People often feel uncomfortable talking about death. However, asking whether he or she is depressed or thinking about suicide can be helpful. Rather than “putting thoughts in the child’s head,” such a question will provide assurance that somebody cares and will give the young person the chance to talk about problems.
Alcohol and Drug Abuse
Depressed teens may abuse alcohol or other drugs as a way to feel better.
Self-Injury
Teens who have difficulty talking about their feelings may show their emotional tension, physical discomfort, pain and low self-esteem with self-injurious behaviors, such as cutting.
Q: My doctor just took me off strattera because of severe….?
constipation. Does anyone have any suggestions for ADHD? I also take 150 mg of Effexor for depression..
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My son took strattera for a while, but experienced loss of appetite and weight loss. Considering he was in 6th grade and weighed only 40 lbs, we couldn’t let that keep happening.
Other alternatives are Concerta, which is a long acting ritalin, or the plain methylphenadate which is short acting. There are number of choices. Tenex is a drug used to treat hypertension in the elderly, but has shown good results on children and adolescents with ADHD. And if you have ADHD with obsessive component (this is thinking too much about something, too many unnecessary worries, or doing stuff like going back to see if the door is locked multiple times, straightening the tags inside your clothes or making sure that your socks are PERFECTLY straight before you put your shoes on) a reletively new drug named Abilify can be lots of help. You need to find a practitioner who works with you and listens to your concerns.
And I would suggest a psychologist (not a psychiatrist) for behavioral therapy. Adhd is not just a simple disease, one pill and it’s gone. It is life altering, affecting work, friendships and ability to preform well in school. Everyone slips up sometimes, but ADHD people have a more impulsive nature and often regret that this very defining charactistic gets them into more trouble than is necessarily. Think of the psychologist as a saftey net.
My older son has ADHD, doesn’t need a psychologist. He’s well controlled on a single med. The younger needs a combination of therapies, including weekly psychologist sessions. He loves them and feels safe, likes to help discover ways to make his life better.
So, I know that personal stuff is often blah, but mostly its just to point out that ADHD is simple tag that is used to define a disease with complex varieties of charactistics and therefore many treatments. When you research your choices just be open.
Best wishes.
Q: how do I get out of the depression I am in since I was rejected by my lover..?
and I have to see him everyday at work. And now I hear he is talking about our intimate times and trying to score with every woman there? Im really hurting. Ive felt this way for months.
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First and foremost, you must believe you are a great person who is being treated badly by someone who you gave your heart to.
It is hard to get out of a depression once you are in it, but it is possible. When I am down, I try to help others, like volunteer, or help a friend out in need. It helps them and boosts your spirit that you are worth something.
You really do not want someone who wants every other woman he sees. You deserve much much more. You are a good woman.
I know it is hard to be around someone who has hurt you, especially since you work together. Please even though you do not feel like, smile. It makes you feel a bit better And shows him that you are not fawning over him. He probably likes it. He is disrespectful to you by telling others about your intimate moments. You do not deserve that.
I know that just around the corner, there is your “knight in shining armour”. You have to let this guy go in order to let the good guy into your life.
Big hug to you, and please hang in there. Smile even though you are hurting. It will get better and your pain will ease.
If you let it take over your life, you may have to go to the doctor for an antidepressant. I know you can beat this without meds.
I am praying for you.
Q: Is there a way someone without insurance can recieve depression treatment without high cost?
My mother is a very emotional person who has been through alot of deaths, and other barriers in the past 4 years. She is now really depressed where she just doesnt care and has let everything go. I am trying to find some type of treatment for her that wont bury us with cost pleas help.
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most states has a mental health facility that goes by ur income..in virginia we have district 19 maybe they have the same where u live.u can also contact the;National Alliance for the Mentally ill on ur computer n look up ur state n they will help u find what ur looking for….
Q: How common is depression among teenagers? What are its root causes?
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“There are a variety of factors contributing to teen depression. There are classic symptoms of teen depression; is it very common to see depressed teens becoming aggressive and acting out. However symptoms are wide-ranging. They may be experiencing stress at school. Additionally, parents can create stress by unrealistic expectations being placed on their teens to achieve. I have never seen a depressed child without some degree of dysfunction in the home, whether it be communication between parents or between parents and teen. Although statistics show that girls are twice as likely as boys to develop clinical depression, this is misleading. It has been reported that girls are more likely to disclose their depressive symptoms, or seek out help than boys. Subsequently, it only appears that girls are twice as likely to be depressed as boys. Boys frequently will show their depression through anger, and acting out, in seeking out peer groups that display asocial or antisocial behavior patterns. Self-esteem will be diminished. Other causes: A breakup of a relationship, physiological illnesses can induce depression, physical and sexual abuse, or sudden loss of a grandparent or parent. Combined with the fact that coping mechanisms are not as well-developed as teens have only walked this earth for a short time compared to adults, you now have a nice mixture for increased suicidal ideation and attempts.”
Q: How can I tell my boyfriend I think he has depression and needs help?
So my boyfriend shows very major signs of major depressive disorder. I want him to get help, but I have no idea how I tell him he should get counseling. What do I do?
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Spit it out just like that. I have depression and I have several friends that suffer too. Shoot him straight, and be compassionate. Maybe he needs meds but he does need professional intervention. He likely knows that he is depressed, if he doesn’t realize that, then he has some very major problems!
If you are really uncomfortable in talking to him about this then talk to a therapist yourself before talking to him.
Q: My mum suffers from serous depression. Can you recommend any form of alternative therapies, foods,?
etc that you have found helpful in treating yourself or a person you know …. any suggestions would be really welcome if you have experience with depression……. no silly answers this is a serious question. thanks just so you dont get me wrong, im not trying to cure my mum, she is hospitalized and under medication and looked after by thosed trained to deal with this illness. i just want to help when she leaves hospital….
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Some approaches that you may want to consider:
1. Find a good psychologist - he/she may help with various cognitive behaviour skills and therapies and try to look at the root emotional cause.
Ask the psychologist whether a visit to a psychiatrist is also required - they focus more on medication.
2. Regular exercise - Both aerobic exercises like walking and something like yoga or taichi. Such exercise will bring balance and harmony to the body and mind.
3. Good sleep. The best hours to sleep are from 9 pm to 4 am. -The body rejuvenates itself best during this time. If she has difficulty sleeping, I find that deep breathing before sleeping helps. Or putting on some soothing music also helps.
Hope your mum gets better and good luck to you.
Q: Housing single mothers..?
I’m a single mum to a lovely 2 year old girl! I’m 23 years old and am still living at home with my parents! Im sleeping on the sofa whilst my little girl is in her own bed next to me! We dont even have our own bedrooms! I have been on the Housing List for 3 years now,and when I complained nothing was being done,I was told people out there are worse off than me and that I should expect a possible further 3 years to get my own home!! Ive been suffering from depression since my daughter was born and have Gall Stones which makes it very difficult and uncomfortable sleeping on a sofa! There are seven of us living in this 3 bedroom house yet nothing can be done for me and my daughter! Id like to hear any views/advice on my matter.. Ok.. can I just add that falling pregnant was not planned but I was not willing to destroy this life growing inside me! Im coping fine as a mother and dont regret having my little girl 4 a second! I am currently saving for the deposit to go private,which is over a thousand pounds! Its very hard trying to save for that plus pay rent to my parents! And might I just add,having depression isnt easy.. maybe those of you thinking Im lazy or expecting everything easy should read up on it! Im suprised at how many insensitive replies I have recieved!
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I can not even sit here & read after the 5th answer. It makes me sick. These cruel people who sit here & tell you that’s why you shouldn’t have gotten pregnant. WHAT is that doing for your situation at this point in time??? For goodness sakes. I’m so sick of people who are so righteous about themselves, and have never been so low to know what it could even begin to feel like. They have absolutely no right answering your question…..Yes….answering this question is a RIGHT, because you literally HAVE to have been in your shoes to understand! You don’t want to do anything when you’re depressed! You don’t want to go on, knowing you have nothing but the same hurt & shame & anger to look forward to day after day!! I understand. I do not have an answer for you, and I am so sorry, but the compassion that I felt I had to have and answer your question just to tell these others to get a life & go outside of the comfort zone and realize that not everyone has it that good! Even those that have it that good, DON’T! My goodness!!! I am shamed to say, that I have been homeless with my children before. And it sucks. And it’s something we went through..and I never want to go through it again. And I wonder what kind of person does that to their children. And I realize the kind of person that does that. A person…not one that does not love their children…but a person that is feeling hopeless, scared, alone, angry, and a plethera of other emotions that are just too mixed up that you don’t even FEEL yourself anymore. You just find that you make it from one day to the next.
I will say, however, that it can’t always be like this. The cold hard truth, is that do I want to ever do that to my children again? No. So I have to do something everyday. And that is work. Whether or not I want to be here. Do my children want to be homeless? No. That would be selfish of me to do that to them. And, they are MY world. These people are right. I chose to bring them in this world…whether by accident or otherwise, but the choice to keep, and not abort & adopt out was mine. They didn’t have that choice. So every choice I make now affects them as well.
The best thing I have done for them & myself has been to work. I’ve also started counseling 4 weeks ago. It’s been a huge help. You should think about that.
Unfortunately, none of anything that anyone will tell you will matter until YOU are ready for it. People will help you, they can be there for you, they can have hand outs for you, but until YOU are ready to fully change, it is not going to happen. And I say this ONLY from experience. Not to be judgemental or cruel in anyway whatsoever.
I truly wish the best for yourself & your daughter. You both only live this life once, and you only have ONE chance to raise her….do it the right way.
Q: What would you do?
The Doctor I had when I was growing up diagnosed my Borderline Personality Disordr, but didn’t give me any medication, or refer me for counselling, and always told my parents that if I tried to kill myself, or hurt myself to basically ignore me, as I was just doing it for attention. So I spent my teens and twenties in hell. It’s only now that I’m getting proper treatment. I feel like I could have done so much better if I’d had the right care. What can I do? Should I write my old Doctor a letter, or sue him? I’m really angry Alright, just so I make myself clear. I’m not looking for money! I just want to know why I had to live the way I did and lose so much of my life to being so messed up, when I could have had it sorted much sooner! And BPD is nothing like depression…I wish I just had depression
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As sad as it is parents and doctor do make bad decision at times, I would suggest letting the past go and focus on this moment of time, and work on your mental health issue, you Can not change what happen in the past you can only learn from the past to become a stronger person, which will help you with building up tolerance and endurance and patience to become a better and stronger person. here are some of my daily practices
1, Take a moment to calm down, and relax
2. Focus on the issues that have created this chaos
3. Accept the thing you can not change or have control over
4. think about your choices
5. Think about the out comes from your choices
6. contact some one in your community mental health agency like a help line or if you want you can chat with me on yahoo messenger my id soulstore.
I wish you the best, It very difficult to see things when all emotions are racing like a burning fire of hell.
Stay Sober, Strong, and supportive to one another unconditionally with eyes and arms width open
Q: Has anyone been sectioned unreasonably?
After a very violent argument with my husband, I sought help from my GP for depression and after being persuaded to have a brief stay in hospital, was placed under section 5 (2) of the Mental Health Act 1981 and was held against my will for twenty four hours when I decided I would rather go home. I felt that this was an unreasonable course of action for the doctor to have taken and told her so. I have been discharged but am suffering sleep problems and panic attacks from the trauma that being sectioned has caused. I can’t trust doctors any more, but my sleep problems are leaving me rather desperate. I have requested an independent investigation into the event, but don’t have any real faith that they will agree with me. Does anyone have any similar experiences? What should I do? Please, no more answers from Moonfairy. I just can’t take how fabulous her life is. God, get a job instead of sitting at home telling the world how to manage itself.
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While I have never experienced what you did…I have seen one of the facilities in our local mental hospitals where they do keep patients against their Will…they drug them and keep them, sometimes strapped to their bed…it is so degrading. I have worked for the last 25 years in the youth sector.
If you even mentioned that you wanted to kill yourself or harm yourself in any way then they would have reason to hold you. If you didnt and were just depressed and needed support, then they certainly cannot hold you. Although proving it is another thing. And even if you didnt say you wanted to harm yourself, if the Doctor thought you were, then that is reason to hold you too….Its very unfair and very inhumane, and gives Doctors a lot of power.
I really feel for you, it must have been a horrible experience, and what a shame this Doctor did this to you because you will think twice before you go to anyone for help if you need to. I can also understand how you could be having trouble sleeping because I have seen first hand these “lock-down” facilities.
I am sure you are totally turned off counsellors….so maybe find a good friend who you can talk to. They may know of a counsellor or professional person who is a good one. I am a qualified counsellor myself and I see all too often this kind of thing happening, but I assure you there are professional people out there who will be interested in listening to you without putting a label on you and forcing you into a situation you dont want to be in.
I tend to agree with you about not having faith that anything will come out of this investigation because you are one person fighting the whole medical profession…I wish you success because it was very wrong what happened to you. Being kept against your Will kinda constitues raping your mind..using power to make you do something you dont want to do. I think in a lot of cases psychiatric hospitals can do more harm than good…although in saying that I also know of people whos lives have been saved by this kind of intervention.
I think maybe you should change your doctor…..talk to a new doctor about your experience…shop around and you will eventually find one who is sympathetic to your unique situation.
Dont feel desperate, this is a one-off situation, it wont happen again….Im sure though, the experience has made you a little bit wiser. There are “good” professional people out there who will know how to help you…please dont let this one horrible experience allow you to think that all doctors/counsellors are all the same. All you have to do is shop around for the ones who you connect with. Maybe make a couple of phone calls and talk to the counsellors over the phone, then choose the one who you think would be the best person for you. They may be professional people but if you dont connect with them, then it is a wasted experience….but that is only my opinion.
If I were closer I would give you a hug. Please cheer up, honestly, not all doctors and professional people are the same.
Q: how can i control my depression?do you know any exercise or something?
i cant control my depression at all i dont take medicines cause the psycologist say not to take any because it can do side effects..some people say to think about nothing and let the mind feel thinkless well that dont work on me sometimes depression increase so much that it turn into a headache and i have to take painkillers to get rid of it i cant even sleep in night well the things keep poping up in my mind..do you know any exercise in which i can control my depression and feel comfortable..
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Take up Yoga. At home, try breathing exercises. Sit or lie down then you breath in through your nose , count one to six before you breath out slowly count one to six.Even counting numbers backwards slowly from 100,99,98 will help calm your nerves.Find what is troubling you. Find something to do when you are free like gardening or walking in the park, keep a pet, talking to friends or family helps a lot.You can overcome depression when you are happy. Clear your mind by doing things to keep you occupied. Eat a balance diet, stop worrying. I have suffered from panic attack which is far worse than you. I am cured. You can too.
Q: Meds for social phobia?
Doctor put me on Zoloft for depression. Counselor says I have PTSD and social phobia. I see the Dr. tomarrow. The social fears have gotten worse on the meds. I’m very self conscience now and less apt to go anywhere but the crying has decreased. Should I ask him to increase it or decrease it?
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Ask your doctor to recommend a good Recreation Therapist. You will not do anything you don’t want to but you will be required to participate in certain SMALL group activities. You can overcome your phobia with help, otherwise the medications are just disguising them, not finding a solution for them. Please consider? You are preventing yourself so much enjoyment and so much fun that life has to offer… don’t let your fears dictate how you live; you have it in it to overcome whatever makes you uncomfortable… if only you’d take the initial step toward wellness. Good luck and best wishes.
Q: I have been married for 19 yrs. to a man who is controlling, mentally abusive & physically abusive–any help?
After my husband put that ring on my finger–everything changed. It was like I became his property! He works hard and is a great provider, but I can’t stand being around him anymore. He blows up about every little thing–I never know what might set him off. We have 2 daughters, ages 15 & 13, and they don’t want to be around him either. I have always been told that I’m sweet, fun to be around, pretty–but I feel like I’ve lost the real me. Here are just a few instances: he has choked me, knocked me down when I was VERY pregnant w/my oldest daughter. Thrown a glass at my face–which I blocked with my hand and had to have stitches. Picked me up by my neck and slammed me against the wall. The last time he threw me down on our kitchen floor & hurt my back-my Dr. offered to testify if necessary. I am on several med.’s for anxiety & depression–I know it’s because of my marriage. I have been a stay-at-home Mom for 15 years–that’s another story. I want out–but I feel trapped.
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You need to get out of there… not only for yourself but for your daughters… but line up your ducks first.
Talk to an attorney, to undertsand your rights in a divorce situation… and talk to the police, what he does physically is illegal, not to mention how morally wrong it is. If you can not afford one, contact your state legal aid society, they can guide you to an attorney who can take your case pro bono… The fact that you are a stay-at-home mom has some special circumstances legally too.
If you are on meds for anxiety and depression, it sounds like you have a counselor as well, perhaps he/she can give you some guidance on finding the right attorney, too.
You seem like an awesome woman… I know you will eventually do what is right for you and your daughters. my thoughts are with you.
Q: Question for elder LGBT?
I have an elderly uncle who is gay, but is only out with his closest family and friends. I wish he’d be available for discussion, especially since I’m coming to terms with my bisexuality. It would be nice to have him to talk to. When I questioned my mother about this, she told me a horrible story about him. When he was younger, like in his 20s, he felt that it was his duty to be proud of his orientation. It’s been around since the dawn of time after all. He and his lover were out and they were harrassed constantly. One evening, my uncle came home to find his lover murdered in his bedroom, shot in the head execution style. It was very truamatizing to him. It was his first love and he knew that it would’ve been him too if he was home. After that, I can never bring myself to talk to my uncle about anything LGBT for fear of upsetting or scaring him. My question is what type of struggles did you go through that you don’t see happening now? Do you have stories? My uncle is in his 70s. He’s very sick. He has nearly every “non-deadly” disease in the book. Diabetes, arthritis, heart problems, depression….ect ect. Oh, rose, your story made me cry. I’m so sorry. Actually, I’m really not supposed to know all this about him. I hate it that I didn’t get to know him as an adult until just a couple of years ago when he’s so sick. He’s moving in with my family and me soon, but he’s across the country right now. I want to get closer to him before I lose him. Anyone who meets him just falls in love with his personality and humor.
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Oh how I feel for you.
i met m beloved future partner at the office. I was looking for a friend who might share my love of classical music and gardening. I was introduced to Gwenneth B. After about 3 years and much discussion, we purchased a home. My remaining family, mother and brother were OK but Gwen’s became horrid. They were of some religious sect.
Many years later, the long serving staff at the office were told to take their long leave or lose it. I asked Gwen if we could go away together. She told me to take mine as she was “feeling tired”. We planned the trip. I was asked to take lots of lovely photos. The trip was wonderful but I returned to find that she had died of a virulent cancer. Her family had claimed her remains, burying them in their “church’s” private plot. I visited as soon as I was able but one of the family warned me to stay away. “Lesbian? NO LESSTHANNOTHING”. I pushed past her to see the headstone. It read “UNKNOWN TO GOD”.
We had both trained in self defence and I nearly struck the woman a killing blow. Something stoppped me but months later I had a complete breakdown.
Reach out to your uncle if possible. He is a terribly lonely man.
Love, Rose P.
PS as I re read your question, I realise even more what a wonderful. caring person you are.
We need more like you.
Catriona Isobel Rose P.
Q: can the great depression be attributed to a person/ group of people or was it just bound to happen eventually
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There have been written I do not know how many books about what caused the great depression. It might best be said that is was the government. They were as responsible as anyone. Or you might say it was just bad luck. Congression investigations blamed in turn low margin requirements and short sellers. They then passed laws to fix both situations. Margin requirements were raised and short sellers were severly hampered. Surprisingly enough no blame was placed on greedy speculators. They were considered victims. Probably because most of congress fell into the later category. And of course they would have blamed short sellers for their losses. It is never their fault they lost their money.
Q: What is worse depression or anxiety? Cause at this moment l feel like l’m suffocating and l cannot breathe.
Everything that could go wrong today has, my heart is racing and l just want to scream, but l’m afraid people will think l’ve lost my mind. I’m on the verge of insanity and l don’t know what to do ?
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I have experienced both….I don’t really know which is worse they seem the same to me….even thou it may not be for other ppl.
anxiety prevents me from some academic things like public speaking and test writing properly. My nerves get out of whack and i feel like fainting or passing out.
depression , well i don’t feel like doing anything at all. Two words: no energy. I guess that I am more prone to suicidal thoughts as opposed to anxiety.
You can talk to a counslor about this. I have talked to a counselor about depression, and a learning stragetist and a study skills tutor about anxiety. I feel like i can cope betterbecause of those. Otherwise if all else fails then see a doc.
Q: Did Tom Cruise Make mother’s that suffered from PPd upset?
When Tom Cruise made the announcement about Brooke Shields.Saying”HOLLYWOOD - Tom Cruise has criticized Hollywood pal Brooke Shields’ “misguided” use of the anti-depressant Paxil, while declaring the actress’ career as over. In an interview with Billy Bush on the TV show Access Hollywood, to be screened on May 26, Cruise speaks of his disappointment to learn Shields used Paxil to fight post-natal depression following the birth of her daughter Rowan. Shields is currently weaning herself off her medication so she and husband Chris Henchy can have another child. Cruise, who claims to have helped people fight drug addictions through his controversial Scientology religion, says the Suddenly Susan actress should have used vitamins to help her feelings of despair. Cruise says, “Here is a woman, and I care about Brooke Shields because I think she is an incredibly talented woman. You look at, where has her career gone?” Despite the Minority Report actor’s declaration her career is over, Shields is currently receiving rave reviews playing murderess Roxie Hart in the London theatre production of Chicago. Cruise maintains, “These drugs are dangerous. I have actually helped people come off. “When you talk about postpartum, you can take people today, women, and what you do is you use vitamins. There is a hormonal thing that is going on, scientifically, you can prove that. But when you talk about emotional, chemical imbalances in people, there is no science behind that. “You can use vitamins to help a woman through those things.”
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Well, I know it made me mad and I cant stand him now. He who has never had a baby, nor ever will, or has ever delt with dibilitating depression…..shouldnt breath a word about what ppl should, or should not do.
I would love to see Tom Cruise try to live with a person that suffers from these types of things and see if vitamens work for them…LOL
Tom is the one that wont have a career if he doesnt shut his stupid mouth.
Q: What is your experience with Lexapro?? (for depression/anxiety)?
I just started Lexapro today, and would like to know how anyone else did with it.
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I take Lexapro for depression, and it works great. please give it time to take effect, and consider changing the dose if needed. If it is the right drug for you, you should definately be feeling better within the month. If not, you may need to try another. Don’t give up. It is not fun to live with depression.
Q: It is possible to be born with depression ?
I had terrible twos since I was born what I mean is I hardly ever smiled as a baby always threw tantrums and find myself with deppression and emotional issue could their be a link between the pregnancy and depression? um to that certain person I AM THE BABY IM REFERING TO IM NOT PREGNAT
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There’s a hereditary, genetic component that can be passed down. I think science is finding as with other illnesses, it may only mean that you are more susceptible to environmental triggers. There’s also a school of thought that looks at the parenting style, how much eye contact and attention directed at seeing the baby or young child as a whole, wonderful person as opposed to just feeding and basic physical care. This isn’t to put the problem off on the mom, but just recognizes that some babies/children need more of a deeper connection than others. Without it, they struggle to find worth in themselves, which can have lasting implications. Also, if you are emotionally neglected or put down/criticized as a child, you may very well end up a depressed youth with further depression in adulthood. All of which is an interplay between self-esteem and genetic predisposition.
Q: what do you think of claire from corri and honey from eastenders?
honeys baby is down syndrome and claire has post natal depression,
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very convenient that the same story lines r happening at the same time
Q: I just made the hardest decision of my life today and I ended my marriage today.?
My husband has been a very selfish man, cheating drugs lying leaving me hitting our kids breaking all his promises and only thinking of himself,did I do the right thing? he’s not on drugs now but has been in the past. We’ve been married for 10 years and I’ve suffered depression for 8 of those years, and now my 10 year old son is suffering the same. NO JOKE, I just ended it today.
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Yes you did!!!!!!!!!!You have 5 children to think of and it will only get worse,trust me I am 47 and unless he gets off the drugs he will continue to lie and be abusive,he chose drugs as his new family,if he seriously gets clean than see from there!I am here for you always!!!!
Q: question about the town mcbride michigan.?
i know several people that lives there or has lived there. they were fine before they moved in to that town but shortly after they started having depression, heart problems and other things. as soon as they move out of the town they get better. i am one of them. it may be coincidence but i don’t know kind of weird though. what could this be?
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Air quality there doesn’t seem very good
http://www.scorecard.org/env-releases/cap/county.tcl?fips_county_code=26117#ej
Q: Depression?
I have had this now for 5 years I am still on tablets for it but can any one tell me what they do when they have a bad day or week. I hate it cause you can feel it taking a grip of you and there is nothing you can do. or is there ?????????
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Yes, there is something you can do. Depression is often caused by unresolved issues in a persons life.
I have suffered from depression myself, and I am still susceptible to it. I found my help in a Christian 12-step Program at my church, which is nothing like I’ve ever experienced before. It has helped me not only see the truth about the underlying issues causing the depression, but I have also gained tools to apply to my life when I am drawn back toward the pit. It has also given me a support system which is so very important to living a more peaceful life.
Truly, God has the answers to our lives and getting to know Him is the first step to freedom from depression. May you find the answers you need to help you in your journey to overcome depression.
Q: What Was Life Like During the Great Depression?
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Hungry, depressing, feeling of true hopelessness, to name a few… Having to watch your children go to bed hungry…Knowing there was nothing you could do to fix it… Standing in a soupline for marginably edible food… not being able to afford even the most elemental household goods… Hopelessness everywhere, no good news to be heard… does that give you some idea ??????
Q: Has anybody heard about recovery-inc? I talk it up as much as I can.?
It is a wonderful organization for self help for depression, anger and fear. Try their web site www.recovery-inc.org Divine one - I still say substance abusers can’t think critically. Your answers only reinforce that. You don’t know what my past is like so how can ypou say I don’t know what I’m talking about. As far as guitar playing goes, I am surprised you didnt sell your to buy drugs.
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Thank you for this information. I am currently trying to overcome (and I will overcome) my own anxiety/depression. I am currently in search of a support group and I found one in my area through this site. Thank you soooo much.
Q: My Face keeps braking out, how do I get ride of the acne?
I never used to brake out at all. My skin was always so healthy. About two months ago I kicked my kids father out and I am raising my 2 young children on my own. I was put on prozac for depression around the same time. Ever since then my face is constantly braking out and I can’t get ride of it. Any suggestions?
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As long as your acne is only light to moderate, you can use home acne remedies, everything that you need can be bought from a grocery store.
bean tea.
Aloe Vera juice or gel.
Cucumber.
Natural oatmeal.
home made acne solution.
Read http://theaones.com/blog/?p=107… for a full explanation how to treat acne at home
Q: Describe the impact of FAS and postpartum depression/psychosis on neural development?
Helpppppppppppppppppppppppp…. FAS stands for Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. If you are not going to give tha answer, please not be here.
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Read your school book. We are not here to answer your homework question. It has been 15 years since I took that class and I still know the answer because I read the book.
Q: Where do I go from here?
I’ve come to the conclusion that love is just a complex chemical reaction, monogamy is flawed, there is no god, and freedom is a joke. Also, I’m surrounded by people that seem to’ve swallowed the blue pill. Where do I go from here? Drugs? I don’t think I’ll be using those as an escape any time soon. Reality is ridiculous as it is. If you’re going to recommend your one true religion, please don’t bother answering. Please note that I’m not in a state of depression, only realization. If reality depresses you, that’s acceptable. However, I’m looking for open-minded answers from people that understand my point of view. Please don’t tell me you’ve taken the red pill and your personal god loves you in the same sentence.
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To keep yourself sane during your development, try to find the beauty in those things. Just because you believe that love is merely a chemical reaction doesn’t mean that you can’t revel in the feeling when it comes. It’s kinda like people who get drunk. The feelings are a result of the drink and nothing more, but nothing stops them from getting drunk again later.
As for monogamy being flawed, monogamy is not for everyone. Polygamy is full of its own problems as well. It all depends on what you feel most comfortable with.
No God? Ok. Who cares? If it does not bother you that there is no God, then why worry? If it does bother you, then perhaps you should speak with someone who is more knowledgeable about religion. Maybe even test the waters with religions that you have not tried before. Not all religions believe in the existance of God. The important thing is that you are at peace with your belief, whatever it is.
Freedom… What IS freedom really? Freedom may be a joke to you because of what you believe freedom is. Personally, I need structure. Without structure, I could not enjoy freedom. Some people need little or no structure and often find it confining and confusing. It is all a matter of perspective.
As for where you go from here. Try just going to tomorrow for now. I know it sounds all cliche, but one day at a time often works best. Everyone needs to find their own “truth” regardless of what that “truth” is. No one can just wave a wand and make the horror go away. Accepting the situation and seeking ways to better it are signs of an intelligent mind.
If I have helped you at all, feel free to contact me. If not, well good luck anyway.
–Steele
Q: Black Panties….?
Sadie lost her husband almost four years ago and still has not gotten out of her depression, mourning as if it were only yesterday. Her daughter constantly calls her and urges her to get back into the world. Finally, Sadie agrees to go out, but didn’t know anyone. Her daughter immediately replies, “Mama! I have someone for you to meet.” Well, it was an immediate hit. They took to one another and after dating for six weeks he asks her to join him for a weekend in the Catskills. And we know what that means. One room and the normal follow up to that. Their first night there she undresses. There she stood nude except for a pair of black lacy panties. He in his birthday suit. Looking at her he asks “Why the panties?” She replies, “My breasts you can fondle, my body is yours to explore, but down there I am still in mourning.” He knows he’s not getting lucky that night. The following night the same scenario. Her standing there with the black panties on and he in his birthday suit; except that he has an erection on which he has a black condom. She looks at him and asks, “What’s with this… a black condom?” He replies, “I’m going to offer my condolences.”
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ha ha ha ha that was so funny!
thank u for the laugh reall need it these days…
Q: you have done something that made you feel confused about yourself and who you are ,?
it made you go through a phase of depression… but as you began to pull yourself togther and became better , you just had nostligic feelings and memories of that experince you had , some moments in it were amazing some others were not .. all in all you were not at the end happy and you wanted out , you could not find balance and you have to leave ….. what makes you after a one year of treatment want to go back to what led you into a depression ???!!
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cant really be sure… because actually feeling only u would know it…give a try n see if u r comfortable carry on or else just give up n stay where u feel better
Q: What make a person happy or sad? Can one choose to be happy?
In terms of depression…are some people in life happier than others? Can an individual’s mind set determine if they will be happy or are some thru genes just GOING to be unhappy?
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Life is about choice. If you choose to see things on the brighter side and take action to make your life better then you’ll be happier. Some people love gloom and doom. I think they use it as power. “See how sad I am? and it’s all your fault for not fixing it”. (I have a sister who does this) I don’t know how they can stand being unhappy all the time. Why would you do that to yourself when you’re in charge of your own life?
I choose to be happy.
Q: HELP!!!!! iam losing all ma hair :(?
iam really into so much of depression lately…… iam losing so much of hair….. well beyond da 100 strands limit…..every time i comb, da hair jus falls……it doesn’t break……it jus completely falls frm da root……:( does somebody have the slightest idea as to what exactly is wrong and what i can do to save da little hair iam left with?? iam just 19….. 
and its very embarrassing for me……
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Everyone loses between 40 & 120 strands a day, depending on how much hair you have, your age & your hair’s growth cycle. People with fine hair tend to have more of it & therefore will lose more of it than their thicker-haired sisters & brothers. Your hair also thins as you get older, particularly after menopause for women, but the thinning will stop & not continue as it will for men.
You’ll lose the most hair in the fall — typically November and December when hair reaches maturity in its growth cycle.
Hair loss can occur through poor dieting, tight ponytails, even with age. iron deficiency may be the cause. Sometimes it happens as a result of illness. Even stress, excessive weight loss, iron deficiency & thyroid problems can cause hair loss.
If you’re really worried, ask your doctor, however, experts say you really only need to worry if your part is getting wider or you can see your scalp through your hair. But don’t worry, not all hair loss is permanent. There is a specialty doctor called a ‘trichologist,’ an expert in hair problems.
Q: Does anyone know of treatments for CFS?
CFS stands for Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, sometimes wrongly referred to as ME. Chronic Fatigue is virtually constant mental tiredness and lack of concentration, which often causes depression
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Chronic fatigue syndrome, or CFS, is a debilitating and complex disorder characterized by profound fatigue that is not improved by bed rest and that may be worsened by physical or mental activity. Persons with CFS most often function at a substantially lower level of activity than they were capable of before the onset of illness. In addition to these key defining characteristics, patients report various nonspecific symptoms, including weakness, muscle pain, impaired memory and/or mental concentration, insomnia, and post-exertional fatigue lasting more than 24 hours. In some cases, CFS can persist for years. The cause or causes of CFS have not been identified and no specific diagnostic tests are available. Moreover, since many illnesses have incapacitating fatigue as a symptom, care must be taken to exclude other known and often treatable conditions before a diagnosis of CFS is made.
Treatment of CFS
Since there is no known cure for CFS, treatment is aimed at symptom relief and improved function. A combination of drug and nondrug therapies is usually recommended.
No single therapy exists that helps all CFS patients.
Lifestyle changes, including prevention of overexertion, reduced stress, dietary restrictions, gentle stretching and nutritional supplementation, are frequently recommended in addition to drug therapies used to treat sleep, pain and other specific symptoms.
Carefully supervised physical therapy may also be part of treatment for CFS. However, symptoms can be exacerbated by overly ambitious physical activity. A very moderate approach to exercise and activity management is recommended to avoid overactivity and to prevent deconditioning.
Although health care professionals may hesitate to give patients a diagnosis of CFS for various reasons, itтАЩs important to receive an appropriate and accurate diagnosis to guide treatment and further evaluation.
Delays in diagnosis and treatment are thought to be associated with poorer long-term outcomes. For example, CDCтАЩs research has shown that those who have CFS for two years or less were more likely to improve. ItтАЩs not known if early intervention is responsible for this more favorable outcome; however, the longer a person is ill before diagnosis, the more complicated the course of the illness appears to be.
Recovery from CFS
CFS affects each individual differently. Some people with CFS remain homebound and others improve to the point that they can resume work and other activities, even though they continue to experience symptoms.
Recovery rates for CFS are unclear. Improvement rates varied from 8% to 63% in a 2005 review of published studies, with a median of 40% of patients improving during follow-up. However, full recovery from CFS may be rare, with an average of only 5% to 10% sustaining total remission.
http://www.cdc.gov/cfs/cfsbasicfacts.htm
Q: How should I fight depression?
I would prefer to find out a method that doesn’t implies pills!
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I think depression is all in the mind. Just think that somewhere out there someone is thinking about you, wondering how you are, and wishing the best for you. Don’t think there is no more hope. There is always hope for everything. I myself feel a little depressed at times like I’m swallowed by loneliness, but I stop myself by saying “Hey! stop it! There is still hope somewhere.” try to eat a piece of chocolate, it makes you feel good. and do something you’ve always wanted to do, pamper yourself, have a vacation, see places. hope this will do you good.
Q: Bad Period Of Time!?
My Boy Friend is facing a very bad period of time. He works but he’s not happy at all where he works and also not happy with his salary. I tried to help him about finding another job but it seems not going well with him. It’s been almost 3 months where he works but not happy at all. I’m afraid he’s going through a slight depression. I don’t remember seeing him smiling or laughing. I don’t know what to do to make him feel better. Is it a bad luck or something else?I don’t know. Please tell me what can we do. coz this affecting everything in his life.Sometimes I feel it could affect us since we r trying hard to be married! I don’t know what really can i do for him and for us to make him really happy! i’m just worried!
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I have been through that before with my girlfriends (ex not cause of something different) but all you have to do is support him maby try and get him to go in a different direction maby not a mew job but school for a new career that is what my girl did for me and it worked times were still tough but when i am don’t i will be happier and in a better place doing what i want to do
Q: Do you know some one who is depressed?
Do you know anti depressant may cause you more problem in the long run, Have you notice that people with a mental disorder or mental illness can not get life insurance. Because these psychotropic medication can shorten the life cycle, and may cause major health problems. Did you know alcohol is a depressant. I been winning the battle over depression by the follow ways 1. I tell myself every day I do not have time to be depressed it a waste of energy 2. I will not allow this depression to interfere any longer with my daily life 3. I will Eat well balance healthy meals each day 4. I exercise “chicken dance” 5. I read the bible and put words into practice 6. I look for the small wonderful and beautiful thing in my life that most people with sight will never see 7. I learned not to take any thing for granted because I know all things will pass away in a blink of an eye. If you still feel depressed, stop what you are doing Run to a mirror and tell your self you are very special.
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you gave some good advise… i am happy to hear its working for you.. as i also able to overcome depression by doing so i have made a very wise choice… i dont push people to do things they are perhaps not ready or willing to do… however i do believe for most of us depression can be cured by other ways… without the meds… good luck.. keep up the good work … thanks for sharing your wonderful story….
Q: birth control question..women only. if a guy answers this, i WILL report abuse!!?
i was just wondering if anyone out there has tried the new birth control pill, seasonale? i’m trying to watch my weight and i was wondering what the side effects are of this.. and i’ve asked a doctor and he said just the normal ones but wouldn’t tell me what… i am very sensitive to side effects of any medicine so i wanted to try this new one, but wanted some feedback on it. i’ve tried every single other form of bc.. and they all have way too many side effects for me to handle like nauseas ALL the time.. and headachy and pregnant like or flu like for those who dont have kids.. please let me know.. NO GUYS ALSO. I SUFFER FROM anxiety.. and depression, is this something i can take along with medication for it. or maybe there’s another new med that deals with depression that is a form of bc?? i am not interested in nouva ring. that can fall out, and i’ve tried the diagraphm, its annoying as hell even when its in the right way, and condoms suck
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I was on seasonale for 5 months. I started taking it because I have had other chronic health problems, and the added monthly pain made it all worse. My doc said I should try seasonale.
She told me it wouldnt cause weight gain because of a difference with the hormones it was made with. I gained 15 pounds.
I had alot of cramping, but because I have also had kidney problems, I thought it may have something to do with that. At first the seasonale seemed to work great for me. Besides cramping I had no bleeding, no other symptoms.
Then 4 months in, the bleeding started, and didnt stop for an entire month until I got fed up and stopped taking the pill. I bled for two weeks after I quit. I was grumpy, tired, my face broke out, I had gained weight, and I was totally confused because my doc said none of this would happen. So i did a little research and found this forum:
http://www.aphroditewomenshealth.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic;f=7;t=000144;p=0
In case the link doesnt work, its www.aphroditewomenshealth.com and i found some forums where other women posted their experience with seasonale. I hope it helps in your decision.
Good luck!
Q: What’s the best approach to take if you know someone who may be considering suicide?
This person just got fired from their job. They’ve also recently suffered from ailing health, an emotionally devastating break-up, and depression after failed attempts at a few new relationships. Anything I can do, I will. Better safe than sorry, even at the risk of being intrusive.
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I’m sorry that you are going through this. A suicidal person plans how they are going to do it. Has this person given away belongings or anything like that? Best to keep an eye on them.
I speak from experience. I’ve tried to kill myself twice, the last time being just about 2 weeks ago. I was court ordered into a mental hospital where I spent 8 days. Best thing that could have happened to me.
Sometimes people will have no idea what’s going on inside of you. After being sick and missing so much work, I was unable to pay my bills. I almost got evicted, lost my truck, had to scramble to get the electric paid. Plus my family got sick of my sickness, and they won’t talk to me anymore, so I didn’t have them to talk to. I’d been having health problems, I was too medicated, I had several weird things happen in rapid succession (guy ran into me on purpose in a road rage incident, I had my purse stolen from me on the way to the bus stop - I could go on, but you get the idea. I was trapped in my apartment without a vehicle or phone (in stolen purse), and was completely isolated. I couldn’t even call 911 if I wanted to. I’d been planning on doing it, but I picked this particular night beause I felt lonely, unloved, everything was F’d up and I couldn’t fix it, and the pain was intolerable. I resolved to kill myself that night, and the weird thing is, I wasn’t sad about it at all. I was determined. I wrote a suicide note that I emailed to a couple people at work, mainly with instructions for my cats. If you’d like to read it, here’s the URL: http://diesmallweed.spaces.live.com/blog/
Every one, if you even think someone is contemplating suicide, do some kind of intervention. You could save a life.
Good luck to you.
Q: Goodbye to anorexic women! I applaud Spain for doing this. Your thoughts?
A fashion show in Spain banned all rail thin models from participating in it’s fashion show saying they are too skinny and sending a bad message out to kids who are developing eating disorders in their attempts to imitate what they see in fashion etc. The Madrid show is using the body mass index or BMI — based on weight and height — to measure models. It has turned away 30 percent of women who took part in the previous event. So they are trying to promote a healthier woman…healthier weight than the heroin addict look that’s been in. The Mayor of Italy said she would do the same there. I applaud this as should women everywhere. Agree or disagree? I agree woman seem to be either at one end of the scale or the other…but honestly…I think with women looking like real women again and promoted as such…you won’t have as many depressed women (and therefore perhaps overeating) and maybe people will focus on just being happy again rather than aiming for the impossible or settling for depression as the alternative…I agree…obesity is a problem…but it’s linked to fast foods…they need a shaking up too and to start making healthier products. Hope it catches on, all of it.
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I think it’s terrific and should be initiated in all countries
Q: How do you keep yourself from going into a deprssion?
i am leanin into a depression.what should i do?
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Babygirl, I’m bi-polar, believe me, I know what it’s like to go from on top of the world all the way to in the gutters. What I usually do when I am having a mood swing like that is to tell myself that it isn’t my fault.. That it’s noone’s fault, it’s just a simple fact that you can’t control such a thing when you have a chemical imbalance. Also, remember that the things you are thinking about to make you this way are poison, they serve you no good, nor do they serve anyone any good. Push up your self respect, you are worthy of all that life has to give, and if you beleive this you will get all it has to give. Love, forgiveness, and giving are the best tools to bring yourself back. Go out and tell someone you like the way they look, or tell someone they did a good job when they do. When they smile and say thank you it’ll help you feel better about yourself. Also adjust your lifestyle a little. Cut out the sugar, it’ll only bring you down, instead bulk up on the vegitables and fruit, not too much meat, about three ounces a day. Don’t forget a little dairy, or dairy substitute, and plenty of starchy healthy foods such as whole grain products, and potatos, but leave on the skins since they hold the most nutrition. Your body needs these things and if you have them then your mind will be clearer, and you’ll feel better physically, and when you feel good your mind will have more room to do the same. Also, try to get at least thirty minutes of constant exercise a day, either in two fifteen minute sessions or one whole thirty minute session. Don’t forget that if you have the will and fortitude you can do a little more. Exercise releases endorphines into the brain, as well as ceratonin, and dopamine, two chemicals essential to the pleasure center of the brain. Do not use chemical ways to stimulate the pleasure center, such as caffiene, sugar, and fats, these will only cause stress on the body and have the opposite effect once the pleasure center has calmed down. Also, avoid people who like to bring you down, these people are the worst, and are only trying to make themselves feel better by making you feel worse. Don’t allow them that pleasure, and by all means don’t do it yourself, because your guilt will only eat away at you. Also forgive yourself for you mistakes, you are human, and all humans make mistakes. Also, learn to forgive those who have harmed you, when you feel resolve over such and issue instead of letting the tention build up you’ll feel much better.
Q: If you suffer from depression, do you think its possible to have some kind of career?
I am in the Army and I kind of got myself in some trouble. Well not serious but maybe it could be. See, Ive always had anxiety/depression or some form of it my entire life. Its not good. Off again, on again. It never really ends. Anyway, about two months ago an incident happend (Im sure you can imagine, I don’t really want to talk about that part) that got me sent to another place where it would be less stressful or whatever. I feel very ebarrassed and ashamed about what happened, and I’m sorry for it. I go home in November, and my obligation is up in February. and, I’m getting out. But I don’t know what is going to happen after that. I have a BA in psychology, and I did very well in school. I’m just afraid of so many different things. Is that thing that happened going to follow me forever? Even if it doesn’t is there any job out there for me that I can do? I still have a wife and 3-year old to support. But I’m sooo tired of feeling depressed. Its very painful
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Hey I am sort of in the same boat you are and yes you can still have a career. It is actually good for you to get out into the world and keep living. I just had to take a leave of absence for about a month and half b/c of my problems. I was worried about the way everyone was going to treat me when I got back, but it actually was fine and everyone was nice. I am also very tired about being depressed. Actually last night was a low night for me. What I did to bring myself back up was to read from a book I have been into. “The Power of NOW” by Eckhart Tolle.
www.EckhartTolle.com
This book is great and it makes me feel good when I read from it. My biggest problem is loneliness. I lost my best friend that I did everything with and talked to everyday. I am getting out and working on getting new friends it is just hard until I am going to actually get there. Try looking at what it is that makes you so depressed and work on it. In the end you just need to know everything will work out for you, the universe will take care of you. It knows what is best for you even if it is not your desired outcome. I know you will be fine, think about your wife and 3-year old and don’t be afraid to ask for help.
Q: Would you be offended if someone said this to you?
I have a prayer support group set up through my church, the purpose of this is to help me through depression, help me to grow in my relationship with the Lord and to be a “family” in the love and emotional support sense as I am an orphan. I have decided to go back to college to gain more skills to get a better job and know I will have to get a job to support myself financially and have applied for loads but the head of my support group has just said that she thinks I am expecting them to support me financially! I am not and I never have! I got extremely upset by this and hung up on her. Would you be offended if someone said this to you? Please don’t make nasty comments about my faith. If you don’t agree with it then please don’t bother to leave an answer because it will be of no help to me. God bless.
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DON’T WORRY ABOUT IT!! THE DEVIL IS BUSY!! YOU KNOW WHAT YOU’RE DOING AND WHAT GOALS YOU HAVE SET FOR YOURSELF!! SHE MAY HAVE SAID THAT TO SEE HOW YOU WOULD REACT!! DON’T LET HER GET TO YOU!! IF THEY’RE GONNA HELP, THEN FINE AND IF THEY DON’T JUST KNOW THAT GOD WILL MAKE A WAY!! BESIDES, YOU CAN APPLY FOR FINANCIAL AID WITH THE SCHOOL YOU DECIDE TO ATTEND!!
Q: Are these red flags?
Been going out with this guy fo 2 weeks now. We’re always together lately but there are some things about him that I dont feel about. I dont have much experience with guys that’s why I need some thoughts: 1. I dont know where he lives (our only common friend doesnt know either) 2. The longest relationship he had was less than a year. 3. He dated a lot of girls for short duration of times 4. He hates his mother who cheated on his dad 5. He’s 35 years old and a grade school teacher 6. He’s not into any kind of sport or hobbies 7. He tells me a lot of nice things which I sometimes doubt. 8. He said he suffered from depression for several years 9. He always gets a lot of calls from women he said are his friends, co-workers, a girl he teaches to learn to speak english (and she teaches her spanish) 10. His new XB scion of 3 mos. is already reading 8,000 in mileage ( i get a bad feeling abt this, i dont know why) 11. He said he already told his friends abt me (never met them)
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A lot of these things are red flags. You just got to trust your natural woman’s intuition. If these things are giving you doubts in your mind about your relationship, then they are probably right. If you’ve noticed all these things that are bothering you, then I think the best thing to do is to move on. It doesn’t really sound like he’s looking for a long term relationship anyway. I hope this helps and good luck.
Q: I dont think I can ever fall in love again, is this normal?
My whole life, I only loved one woman, married her, then things didnt work out as well and we had to seperate. Its been months since our seperation, and I think Im over her, not sure. Right now, any woman I see, I just dont feel anything towards anyone. I mean, I just dont feel like even dating or trying to start a relationship. I try to keep myself busy the whole day just to avoid it, but I think it has reached to same stage of depression, its getting to me! I just gave up on love I guess, I just dont believe in it anymore. I mean, whenever I see a woman being so nice and sweet and stuff, I just start thinking that she is just faking it and that there is an actual monster beneath that skin that no matter what type of promise she makes that she would love me forever are just lies and that I cant trust anyone anymore. Sorry, mixed up emotions, just want your opinion on this.. is this normal? how did you go one with your life after such an experience? I dont wanna go crazy you know!
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Ya, I think you are going through some normal things. A good friend of mine went through a similiar thing. After being married for half a decade his wife left him and it hit him hard. He completely mistrusted women. It took him a couple years and alot of dating but he eventually moved on and found a great girl that he has been seeing for the last 2 years. One last piece of advice, do yourself a favor and try not compare your ex to new women you meet. It will be hard, but it will improve your odds of appreciating new women you meet for who they are, instead of who they aren’t.
Q: Why is this happening? Is it hormonal?
I’m 16 wks prenant and up until a month ago everything was great! All of the sudden I cry over every little thing, I feel totally alone, and some days I don’t even want to get out of bed. I’m suspicious of everything my husband does, my daughter drives me up the wall and most days I can’t even eat! I feel like I’m going CRAZY!!! Is this just my hormones or am I really losing my mind? Has anyone ever heard of pregnancy related depression? If you are going to be mean, please just skip this one ok. I feel crappy enough! Thank you in advance! I thank everyone for their wonderful advice, I do feel better today though a little silly 
Everyone gave such good advice, I don’t know who to pick as the best answerer! I’ll put it to vote and let others pick! Thank you again!!!
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Yes it is hormonal. Expect the unexpected.
Q: Depression or postpartum?
ok heres da thing. i had my baby a 1yr 1/2 ago. i dunno if im just depressed or if its STILL postpartum depression. wen im alone wit my son i feel lonely. i want to hug him n kiss him n play wit him but i just caint get myself to do it. its been along time can it still be baby blues? i really need help. i feel like a bad mom for not wantin to spend time with him. wen he crys it annoys me. n it hurts me dat i dont pay as much attention as i should to him. im hes mother im suppose to love him play with him n i caint get myself to do dat. help wat do i do?
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Try to get him into a moms day out program if possible. I never had a break from my oldest when he was born because his father was an #@#. Yes-it probibly is depression and you should get help immediately before it gets worse. I’ve been through it I understand. I started going to church to meet new people and to get a break while he was in the nursery. If you have a religion start going to church if you’ve not gone in while. Get out of the house–just going to the park 1-2 times will help-and you will meet other moms. If you have a mall in your town-put him in a stroller and walk around the mall to get out and get excersize. I started taking anti depressants-I had to try 3 different brands at different strengths to find the right one-a lot more people have clinical depression than you think. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. Believe me-I’ve lived it. After 2 children.
Q: Mercury tooth filling controversy ?
Background: Teeth fillings contain mercury. There is disagreement on whether this can cause mercury poisoning. Most medical professionals seem to think it does not. Mercury poisoning can cause these phychological symptoms: Irritability, Nervousness, Fits of Anger, Memory Loss, Lack of Attention, Depression, Low Self Confidence, Anxiety, Drowsiness, Shyness/timidity, Decline of Intellect, Insomnia, Low Self Control. Has anyone had their mercury based fillings removed and noticed an improvement in their behaviour/personality ? http://www.curezone.com/dental/mercury_symptoms.asp http://kidshealth.org/research/mercury_fillings.html http://www.raintosun.com/mercury_fillings.htm http://www.mercury-free.com/ This is an extra source I found interesting because it appears to represent experts on both side of the issue. http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/news/fullstory_38388.html
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As most of the prolific writers above correctly state, there is absolutely no risk from amalgams. Patients don’t have the background knowledge to sift thru the research literature and make a balanced view, so they ask their dentist or look up on websites. Unfortunately, there are a lot of misguided or unscrupulous dentists who can make a packet of money from replacing fillings. And after all, we’d all like to have white fillings, so with added scaremongering, it is easy to “sell” replacement fillings to patients.
Rather than try and determine if someone’s personality improves after a changeover (how is this scientifically measured?), why not measure the blood levels for a definitive answer? If someone asks me to replace their fillings for reasons of supposed toxicity, I ask them to have blood and urine tests before treatment, so we can reassess after treatment for any changes in their mercury levels. No-one’s taken me up on this yet, because they don’t really want to find out they’re wrong.
